We all need to work on our marriages. Here are some indicators that show up when we need to give immediate attention! 1. Keeping Secrets Have you erased emails, text messages, phone logs, or website history so your wife wouldnt see it? Has there been activity on your Facebook account you can only participate in when she isnt around? When things are difficult, it is tempting to seek excitement in forbidden places. Keeping secrets creates division and deepens disconnection. If you arent connected to your wife, you are going to connect to something or someone else. Dont deceive her. Let her in and do whatever it takes to come together. 2. Leaving Things Unsaid Sometimes in marriage you have to choose your battles and let things go. Are you doing that too often or about critical issues? Have you kept your opinion on an important matter to yourself because you were afraid how your wife would react? Intimacy involves good communication and knowing one another. Leaving your honest opinion and perspective unsaid leads to her knowing you less. Gradually you will drift from her like a boat untied to a dock. Stop withdrawing and say it. If it unsettles things then you just need to work through it. 3. Overly Kid Focused Are all of your discussions about your kids and their schedules? Kids are a huge responsibility and require a lot of discussion. They will dominate your minds, make you exhausted, and need a lot of attention. There are seasons when thats fine. However, your kids will eventually move out and when they do it will be you and your wife again. Its easy to become strangers when all eyes are fixed on the kids. Move your eyes to her and zero in. She needs to be the first person in your life. 4. Seeking Distractions or Time Away Is it nice to be away on a business trip? Are you staying late at work when your dont have to or looking for other ways to delay heading home? Do you and your wife watch TV in different rooms? Do you immediately head out to the garage to work on the car after dinner? The road to separation is filled with small decisions. You cant have intimacy in different rooms and the problem is not going to work itself out. Go home and be with her. Remove the distractions and re-engage.
Posted on: Sat, 22 Nov 2014 20:37:20 +0000