We were told to be aggressive, we were told not to cry, we were told to protect, we were told we dont need protection, we were told, that we cannot have weak moments. We were surrounded by patriarchy too. I should get the job, the bread which comes to the house should be won by me, if I dont have the job, I am not man enough. Superheroes were made to have superpowers I was told I am the hero and if I go down my family will. I can not go down. I can never fail. If a girl is born, it is the womans mistake. I am the strong one. I cant be wrong. EVER. Wrong? Man? Pfft. I have to beat up people, and I have to think of women of my life as my dignity when something happens when someone does something to the women of my family I was told to rip the dignity of that family, by hurting their women. I was told to do this. I am told to MAN UP, because if I cry if I show emotions if i like drama if I like poetry I am not a man! I am not masculine! I should be a man, I should be strong. Dont act like a woman, BE A MAN! I was told that if I like pink I will be laughed at I was given everything in neutral colours I was shown that men like blue and girls like pink I was made to believe that no other colours exist other than these two which define who I am as opposed to girls. Even when a woman was wrong, genuinely, not because she was a woman, but was just, just wrong and if i was involved,indirectly, or directly I was told I could not handle her Or I was told I am to be blamed. I am a perv. Even if I did not do wrong, sometimes some notions were stretched too much to make it look like my mistake. Everytime. Not that men are never wrong, but when they are NOT,genuinely they are NOT. But then, no, generalization and blame game won the race. But I did not do any of the things I was told to do. I was weak, I wanted support sometimes, I was strong, but it was not always physical I had my dignity, but it was not derived by someone else, NOT by the means of my gender, but the person I was. If I had not gotten a job I worked for it, but was not ashamed of being unemployed. I worked for it, But that does not mean I did not let my wife help me. I told my son to do what he wants He wanted to sing? Let him sing. I did not tell him basketball might be better. because it is not. You cannot weigh a persons skills. Let us men be what we are. We also do not need definitions. I wont BE A MAN. I will be a human. No matter what I will be told I will be a person.
Posted on: Mon, 21 Jul 2014 15:34:00 +0000
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