Well, today is mine and Suzys 41st wedding anniversary.. Wow, does the time fly by ..!! It all started with two crazy young kids who felt like they were madly in love with each other. For some inexplicable reason, it just appeared that we were meant to be. We were always filling each others voids, which slowly helped us to develop into the one person who we both became a part of. And now the name of that one person is “We” . We now especially feel that we were a part of each others destiny, as while looking back on our lives, we can see all the movements and changes that caused us to be brought together. Her parents moved separately with their families to Hawaii well into the roaring 20s, and later met in Hawaii, where they were married sometime around the mid 1930s, after Suzys dad secured a good job with the navy working for an ammunition depot. My parents moved me to Hawaii with them , coincidentally enough, on July 21st, 1969, where my Dad was to begin serving his tour of duty with the U.S. Air Force on Hickam A.F.B. These events,undoubtedly, set the stage to bringing us together, and for us it has always felt like we were a part of a master plan that had to be fulfilled. However, even though we lived on the island of Oahu through much of the same time period, our lives remained separate. While I was living in the town of Waipahu, and then later, on the two Air force bases of Wheeler and Hickam, Suzy remained living in Honolulu where her parents had built their home on a mountainside overlooking the city of Honolulu. This very home had been standing during the attack on Pearl Harbor, where her parents had to live through this horrible assault , while trying to work their way through the rigors of having their first child, Veronica, who was to become Suzys older sister. Well, as we lived our separate lives on the same island of Oahu, the hand of fate finally brought us together, as the master plan shifted us into directions that would bring us together. While we lived separately, we didnt know that we were sharing something in common. We both had an intense love for music, and were both pursuing it in our own ways, while Suzy began singing when she was very young, and I continued playing guitar , which I had already been playing since I was 13 years old and still living in California before I moved to Hawaii. As it turned out , she ended up singing in some club dance bands, and I ended up playing guitar for some of these same kinds of bands. Well, one day, I got a call from someone who told me that there was a band looking for a new guitar player. When I showed up for the audition, can you guess who was one of the singers in the band. ? Yes, it was Suzy, and she looked dreadful ,as she was just getting over a terrible flu virus that had hit the islands. Her eyes were puffy and dreary, with her hair pulled back, and looking like it hadnt been washed for days, and she was moping around to the point of making me wonder just what in the heck she was even doing there.? Still, she cordially introduced herself, and sat down with the rest of the band while we went over a song for my audition.. In retrospect, watching Suzy push her way through such a tough situation was a harbinger of things to come, as throughout our lifetime ,she has always been one to tough it out with me while going through any adversity that life has brought our way . She has been amazingly strong, and my rock who has always been there for me to lean on whenever I was in any kind of need. Well, the rest of our fateful story then goes on with the band asking me to join them, and this is when Suzy and I connected, and realized that somehow we were meant to be together for the rest of our lives. After a few years ,we were married, on July 21st , 1973. In retrospect, sometimes we both wonder if we were too young to be married, but somehow, even with that potential handicap, we managed to survive, and to build a fruitful life together that has been filled with much joy to go along with the inherent problems that life often has associated with it. In short, we have Never regretted making the commitment to become joined as one, which allowed us to become the person who we now refer to as “We” .. Marriage is special bond between a man and a woman where they can learn how to become giving , loving, sharing, and caring. It is also a place where true forgiveness can be learned, while it can be used continuously by each other to mend a wound that every relationship is bound to be plagued with. For , after all, we are all human, and are prone to weakness . But in marriage , we can help to mend each others weaknesses by the sharing the act of forgiveness, which is an act of sacrifice that each one can give to the other. Without forgiveness, no marriage can live out the lifetime that may have been intended for it. Also, without caring, giving,loving, and sharing, no marriage can successfully survive the rigors that life sometimes has to offer. These are the reasons why marriage has become so important to us, as weve recognized that marriage is our “learning ground”, or a place where two people who dont share the same genetic and biological propensities can learn how to become good, responsible, sharing, caring, forgiving, and loving human beings. And it can often be because of the differences between being a man and a women, where these attributes will become so important to the survival of the marriage, as well as to the survival of the human race . And after truly learning these things, we can take that learning to the rest of the world, which is often in need of those emotional considerations and supports. We realized that, by practicing those principals with each other, we can become better people , not only for each other, but for the rest of the world. These are the reasons why Suzy and I believe marriage is such a special bond, and why we both believe that it can become more of a lesson in life when it is shared equally between a man and a woman. And this is why we have managed to stay together for so many years.. Surely , our marriage has been fraught with many difficulties over the years, but the key lies in the learning of how to overcome the difficulties. And ,it is by the sound principals that Ive mentioned above, where this key can be forged inside each persons heart and soul, so that they can open the door to the only kind of love that can re-ignite the smoldering embers of a disagreement, or to help smooth out a difficult situation that may come their way. I feel so blessed to have learned these lessons with a person who was my teacher, as I was her student. And by the lessons I learned, I became teacher, and she became my student, as, over the years, weve managed to forge something very special between us, which has bonded us in a love that is so awesome that sometimes it feels overwhelming! We learned how to love, and how to respect. How to forgive, and how to care. And these are the attributes that all can have to make this a better world to live in. And for that, I will always be happy and joyful that Ive been married to such a beautiful soul, and one who I could share my weaknesses with, so that I could be made stronger... We both thank God for the sacred sacrament of marriage, which was there to help us to become the better people who we knew that we should be. May God bless those who are married, and those who are to become married. For they are sharing, or will one day be sharing, something very special between themselves; which is a bond that is forged by the purest , and most beautiful of loves.. …........................................................................................................ Blessings to you all !!
Posted on: Mon, 21 Jul 2014 16:03:10 +0000
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