What do Unhealthy Boundaries Look Like? People with unhealthy boundaries often find themselves carrying the feelings, ideas or behavior of someone else. People with unhealthy boundaries are usually unaware of this violation or may have rationalized that it is justified. Unhealthy boundaries are often seen in relationships which are abusive. One partner will walk on eggshells around the other to avoid making them mad or having them get violent. The abused partner subjugates their emotions, opinions and behaviors to the wishes of the other. If you are not allowed to have your own emotions, opinions or behaviors that is emotional abuse. So many times I see this and the partner being abused will justify it by saying, But he/she never hits me, so it cant be abuse. Physical violence is absolutely atrocious, but in some ways I wonder if mental and emotional violence is not more insidious, because it goes unseen. A broken bone or a bruise is obvious to everyone. But when someone gets control for your mind, they have control not of your arm or your face but your entire being. They have control of who you are and they make you question the validity of your own judgement and instincts. And they leave no mark. They leave no scars which you can point to and say, See what has happened to me. This can make you question your own sense of reality. And in some ways this is the ultimate boundary violation.
Posted on: Tue, 07 Oct 2014 04:25:27 +0000