What makes a spouse faithful? In a world of limitless choice, falling and staying in love requires more than shared hobbies, values, contribution and ordinary plans. Being memorable to your spouse is of utmost importance, so wear that special perfume that smells of “missing you” or that significant dress with colours that say “I love you”. You can attempt to be a character too, but that takes years of happy effort. Create moments of laughter with your husband or wife that they memorize in a flash. Harbour a world vision. I often indulge in happy contemplation of the first time I saw my husband’s smile at the games table. It had the innocence of an angel. I also remember our first date at a big shopping centre and the gelled top of his hair. It made him look so fun, adorable, cuddly and scruffy that I ate my salad with the big bowl stirrer instead of the small fork! We went to watch a movie about war heros that sacrificed themselves by throwing their bodies over a bomb to secure safety for their team mates. Extremists use their bodies too. Love and hatred can be so close in action but so far in consequence. I will remember our first date for the rest of my life. I’m sure many people feel that way about their husbands too, that they are a stunner - to each their own! Now for the contrarian view. My husband says that faithfulness is a decision, but without super resolution, many tests along the way will ravage that decision. Besides praying every day that the Lord will not bring us to the test which works at times, to ensure faithfulness, love-making between spouses must be exhaustively wanton and bearing children makes that love exclusive. Be aware that there are religions in the world that allow polygyny. The Mormons believed that God would periodically sanctify plural marriage although how one knows that God is speaking to them is uncanny. Islam allows judicious marriage of more than one wife. We are all God’s children and we don’t compete for God’s love, God is able to love all of us equally. Most people think that thought of having passions with more than one individual at any one time is wearisome, unhappy and disastrous. What about couples that are unable to bear children? What then becomes of their love? The answer would then be to adopt children from someone who is young and doesn’t want children. What about surrogacy where one spouse is able to have children and the other not? The more giving but dim witted answer would be to divorce and let the other spouse have a second chance at eternal love. What about the individual left single, what solace would they seek? A life without kids to love is a dreadful life indeed - one reserves the hope for a scientific miracle or a biblical marvel at the age of 130! Still the first monkey wrench to triumph would be life infinite.
Posted on: Tue, 22 Oct 2013 08:02:59 +0000
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