When it comes to building up your self-esteem, there are number of vital ingredients or components that help you to lay the foundation so that you can build upon it. The wonderful thing is that when you start to develop and improve these components, they have a knock on effect by helping to improve other areas. Each of these components help to build your confidence in you and to regard and treat yourself as being a worthwhile and valuable person – yes, self-esteem in a nutshell. 1. Boundaries – respect, limits, listening to yourself. Boundaries are basically like each person’s personal electric fence. They communicate your limits, alert you to inappropriate or downright dangerous behaviour and situations, work with your comfort levels and provide much of the foundation that your self-esteem rests upon. 2. Healthy Beliefs – capabilities, perspective. Unhealthy and unrealistic beliefs greatly affect every area of your self-esteem, especially boundaries and trust. 3. Trust – judgement, decision making, listening, watching, capabilities, perspective. How you see things, what boundaries you do or don’t have will be very much based on experience – you might take the fact that something happened where you let it slide and take that as the gospel according to you on how the world is and your future. Trust is also about having faith in other people’s actions. Low self-esteem means that we’re often all too happy to place faith in others because we don’t trust ourselves 4. Responsibility and Accountability – decision making, judgement, perspective. If you don’t trust you, if you don’t have boundaries and you also stick with beliefs that keep you stuck in a position of being helpless, you’ll lack ownership of your life, although you may end up taking ownership of other people’s stuff.
Posted on: Fri, 06 Sep 2013 03:10:06 +0000
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