When we are wronged we are often tempted to pass back to our wrong-doer the painful energy we feel in the form of a complementary insult or action. We think that if we give them ‘as good as we got’ we’ll be liberated from the sting of their snare. But in reality, this energy only grows stronger with each exchange, however subtle of passive. The wrong will not transmute into a right. What was light and lissom becomes seemingly dark and dense. Resentment and victimhood emerges. But I find that if I quietly and gently stay with the perceived pain, and begin to see it as an ephemeral pattern, it has so much wisdom and understanding to offer. Then, I don’t even want it to pass; I find that it quite easily finds a place to rest in me and I am happy and able to accommodate it while it sits or dances. Nothing had to change except the appreciation of my own openness, resilience and spaciousness. I realise that there is enough space here and the other person is no longer even relevant for there is no other within this apprecation, only what seems to be moving and shifting here.
Posted on: Wed, 31 Dec 2014 11:31:03 +0000
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