When we decide to change ourself spiritually sometimes it is not that noticeable on the physical outside, and some people can judge us as still being the old person that we once were. We want to change our inner self to give us courage, and inner-love, to find who we really are. We happily try to be new, to be different and all for the better. Now we all want to believe with great hopes that everyone we know will be amazed and happy at the new changes. But sometimes that doesnt happen. You see when we change the inside, the outside still looks the same, same face, same physical body, and they have the same old memories of us and they hope that we will go back to that same old person that they remember. They can even force us to do things that we dont want to do, but you must realise that a part of your new spiritual life is learning how to stand up to them, or to walk away from them if they wont leave you to be yourself. And sometimes family and old friends refuse to think that you are a more happy, decent person now and they will still treat you like they in the past. They enjoy the old sins that you once enjoyed, you know better now, but they want you to continue to sin with them, and they are mentally at a loss to understand why you dont like what you once liked, they think that you have gone crazy - the reality that they cannot understand is that you have become enlightened, more knowledgeable, and have grown in wisdom. They may still talk down to you as they did in the past, and this can hurt our feelings as it is a sign of disrespect. This is a sign that it is them that is lost and have no idea what is going on. Listening to them and taking advice off them will do you no good. This can make us feel defeated, and they can drain all the new energy out from us, and to keep everyone happy some people sadly go back to how they used to be. It takes courage to change and stand by the changes we have made. If the changes are for the better and we really are unselfishly becoming that decent loving person that we hoped was in there somewhere, then what we are doing is good. Going back to the past because of pressures and other peoples opinions, comments, and how they treat us etc, will only bring us setbacks and this is not good for our inner-self. With our inner-change we should not accept being treated as we once were. We should stand firm on wanting to change and requiring respect as we change. For some people, those who desperately want to hang on to the old you, it will be very hard for them to accept that you are becoming new, but they must accept this with time and you should not accept their treating you the old way. Be decent and firm with them. If they dont accept you then move on, life was not supposed to be that miserable. With change we lose old friends (fact) and we need the courage to accept that, sometimes some people will not accept the new better person that we are. But at least we will be a fine example for them to consider for their own life in the future. God wants you to be a decent person because you will be so much happier that way. The path to shame and discouragement is of evil. We lose health, respect, love, happiness, and self-respect when we follow the crowd and evil. There is no reason to go back there except weakness. If in the past we did not connect with love in our life then we can be sure that our old friends who have not changed will still live without knowing what love is now. That is a huge setback in us getting on with those of the past - they have a different mindset, we need people who are like-minded with us, and someone we marry must be a kindred-spirit, our soul-partner for the marriage to be a healthy success. They, of our past, must be left to live their own lives the way that they want to live (they have free choice and can change at any time in the future), while we reach out with love and wisdom for the gifts of peace and love that God supplies through His teachings, trials and lessons. Stand strong, if they dont accept you then please, for your own sanity and a better life, move on! Lots of love and best wishes from James M Sandbrook.
Posted on: Wed, 19 Nov 2014 21:21:09 +0000
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