When you get remarried and you both have children in the new marriage I really think grandparents should watch how they do things so that children dont feel left out in life. I believe if you do for one do for all. Family is Family it is not like friends where you can pick and choose. It not only hurts the child but the parent also when some of the kids are recognized but not all. It is a package deal when you have blended families...... Advice for Step-grandparents * Dont push it. Dont expect to develop a relationship overnight. Dont blame yourself if you dont immediately bond with stepgrands. Give yourself and them plenty of time. On the other hand, a relationship cant be put off indefinitely or it will become less and less likely. Research indicates that the older the grandchild, the less likely he or she is to develop a close relationship with the stepgrandparent. * Dont try to buy their love. Do include your stepgrandchildren in gift-giving occasions and sometimes buy them gifts spontaneously if that is your practice. But do not be extravagant and do not have gift in hand each time you see the stepgrandchildren, unless you see them very rarely. * Stay out of family conflicts. Obviously there are circumstances where neutrality is difficult, but giving your opinion when it is not asked for is almost certain to offend. No matter how warmly you are accepted during tranquil times, during times of stress you may become an outsider again, especially if you offer an unsolicited opinion. * Treat stepgrandchildren fairly. If you have biological grandchildren, it is unlikely that you will immediately treasure your stepgrandchildren as much as the grandchildren with whom you have already bonded. You should, however, have a relationship with all of your grandchildren and strive to hide any differences in the way you feel about them. Sometimes it helps to take grandchildren on outings individually so they do not have to compete for attention.
Posted on: Mon, 05 Jan 2015 20:44:03 +0000
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