Where are you now? I am currently living with my grandma but have been considering living with my biological mother. Have you gotten help since filming? Yes, I have gotten help. I see a counselor once a week, a psychiatrist once a month, and am in a program for people under 21 who have mental issues and/or substance abuse problems. I take medication every single day for depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar and medication at night for insomnia. My psychiatrist is also considering putting me on a medication for ADHD as well. How do you feel about the situation you are in now? I am not happy about it by any means but I am making the changes I need to in order to be in a situation where I am happy. I put myself in this situation so I cant be mad or sad with anyone but myself. Negative emotions get you no where so I stay positive each day and continue to make progress, and knowing I am making progress makes me happy. What is the reason Genevieve went to live with Derek? When did he decide that was best? She never went to live with him, her and I were both living with him for some time. We had another argument that ended us. He told me to leave and said I wasnt taking her, I wasnt completely sure of where I was going so I let her stay there. I wasnt going to drag my daughter out of her home to go to a friends house. So, I guess we decided together. He didnt want her staying at a friends house and neither did I. Who has Genevieve now? My dad and step mom have her a lot of the time. They switch off with Derek. Do you ever get worried about your daughter being around so many guys? Of course I do because Im a mom. I could think of a million terrible things that could happen in a situation like that but Derek and Pat love Genevieve more than anything and would never let something to happen to her. Who has custody of Genevieve? Did you lose custody of her? Are you ever going to get custody of her? No one has legal custody of Genevieve, so no I did not lose custody of her. I dont want it to have to come to Derek and I having to go to court to get custody, I am hoping we can learn to co-parent without a judge, but if it comes to that then yes I absolutely would. Do you pay Derek child support? No I do not, to my knowledge he buys what she needs when shes with him. My parents have bought everything for her over the past few months, I have been paying them back for all of it and a plan will be worked out between them and for Genevieves future needs since I am her mom and she be supporting her. Do your parents talk to you now? Are they involved with Genevieve? My parents and I do talk, we do not have a relationship like I wish we did but its not going to happen over night. They are completely 100% involved with Genevieve and have been for a very long time. Even when Derek and I were still together they would take her overnight or take her for the day to spend time with her. Why hasnt your family helped or given you a place to stay? My family has helped, alot. More than I could even begin to explain. They did give me a place to stay but I wanted to be with Derek and that wasnt allowed to live with me at my dads. I hardly knew my biological mom and didnt feel comfortable taking my baby there and my grandmas house just doesnt have enough room for a baby, there is hardly enough room for me. Genevieve and I lived at my Dads for a little while when Derek and I first split up, but then he and i were working on things and moved in with him. My family has helped with Genevieve financially and have been there to help since she has been born, even if it was just an outfit or toy here and there. Do you have anyone to turn to? Yes I do, as I said above, I do have family. Its just taking time to mend the relationships. As you saw in the where are they now, I have Brooke and her family and I even have my manager, Glaze from work. She has been like a parent to me since I started there. Why doesnt Genevieve live with you? Genevieve doesnt live with me because my living situation isnt stable enough for her. I only want what is best for her and honestly that is my dads house where she has a bedroom with her own crib, her own things, her own space and doesnt have to share with anyone. She has been in that house since her and I moved in when we she was a few months old. There is no reason to take her from a familiar comfortable location to bring her to my grandmas where there is hardly any room for her. Thats not fair to her. Whatre you doing to get your daughter and life back on track? I am doing what I am supposed to in order to make sure I am mentally stable. I am looking into different jobs and trying to figure out an actual career path for myself. I cant get her back until I have a stable and safe place for her, in order to have that you need a stable income. I have been talking to Derek and my parents about seeing her and hopefully it will become an ordinary and easy thing. Why dont you fight for your daughter more? I know what is best for her and right now whats best for her is where she is, fighting is only going to stress me out, piss Derek off, and in return Genevieve can sense that. Why do that to her? Just so I can have her and possibly put her in a bad situation? Absolutely not. What made you start stripping? I started out as a sitter which is a girl who just sits and talks to guys and gets them to buy her drinks. I started dancing because I saw the difference those extra ones made. Some girls would dance to two songs, get down and have twenty ones. It was just extra money. Whatre you going to tell Genevieve if she finds out you were a stripper? I am gonna tell her the truth, I did it because it was extremely easy money when I was in a difficult situation. I am going to apologize to her as well, no one wants hear that their mom was a stripper, trust me. Would you be okay with Genevieve stripping? What would you tell her if she did? I would definitely not be okay with her stripping. She wouldnt because her father would never let that happen, but I would tell her that if there is something she needs that bad I will help afford it. I would tell her that it is a bad environment, one that even some of the strongest people mess up in, like myself. I will tell her personal negatives and that I want so much better for her. Where do you strip? I was dancing at Chez Joey on the where are they now. Its in Baltimore, on East Baltimore street. Why did you delete all of your stripper pictures? I deleted them because something clicked, I have family and kids following me. I dont want any young girls looking at me as someone to look up to or to learn from and see that. Especially when nothing in my life was really going in a positive direction. Are you ever going to quit dancing?Do you plan on getting a stable job? I already have, havent worked in a week and yes I plan on getting a stable job. I have been putting in applications at various different businesses and am currently considering going and talking to a recruiter about the army reserves as well as a woman in the medical field, to possibly do schooling for phlebotomy. Are you going to college at all? Not right now, but I was in cosmetology school for a little bit but pulled out for numerous reasons. Such as, I was working two jobs and going to school so I had no time with Derek or Genevieve and I had great difficulty focusing. I dont think it was really something I wanted to do. How do you deal with your ex? Him and I dont talk much but when we do we try to keep it solely about Genevieve. If things dont seem to be going good Ill just say okay or ignore it. Where is Derek now? To my knowledge, living in the apartment you saw, continuing school and lacrosse. Does Derek have a job yet? I honestly dont know. When I lived with him, I know he didnt have much time for a full-time job so he would work some of the games at CCBC. Why is Derek so mean to you now? Does he always talk to you that way? I dont know, I think that is just very angry and disappointed with me honestly. More recently yes. Why did you and Derek break up? There were a few different reasons why Derek and I broke up. There was a lot of stress in our relationship to begin with. Then as my post partum symptoms got worse and I got mean to him I guess he needed to find kindness elsewhere. He started doing stuff behind my back, I started doing stuff behind his. We were fighting really bad, we just couldnt pick up the pieces. Do you see you and Derek working things out and getting back together? I think we will work things out as friends, to co parent eventually but anything past that, no. Are you dating anyone now? No, but there is someone I have strong feelings for and would like to date in the future. If you could go back in time, would you delay pregnancy? Yes, because then I couldve been much more stable and given Genevieve so much more, things wouldnt have happened the way they did. But only if I get to have the same exact baby. For you, whats the hardest and best part about being a mom? The hardest part for me, is not having her every single day like I am supposed to. I am missing out on everything and Im the main person who shouldnt be. The best part, is knowing that I brought someone so incredibly wonderful and perfect and who brings so many people joy, into this world. Did you ever see things working out this way? No, not at all. Do you regret anything youve done? Yes, I regret majority of the decisions Ive made since we got back from Texas. Would you change who/where you are today if you could? Absolutely. I dont like the person I have been recently nor where I am in life. If you got to do it all over again what would you do differently? Theres a lot i wouldve done differently but i think the main thing is i wouldve never started working at the club, it caused a lot of problems for Derek and I, and honestly I feel like if he and i wouldve stayed together and happy like we were at one point, then alot of the things that happened wouldve never happened and Genevieve would be with both of her parents right now. Will there be a teen mom 4 for this season? Would you be on it if they asked? I have no idea and Id definitely consider it, I feel like so many people can learn from my situation but I do have to remember that it not only effects me but my daughter as well. Out of all the seasons of 16&Pregnant, who were your top six favorite? I guess Maci from season 1, Valerie from season 2, Lindsey from season 4, Devon from season 4, Karley from season 5, and Aleah from season 5.wW
Posted on: Tue, 06 Jan 2015 05:33:11 +0000
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