Wisdom from Jarl and Steve! This is so difficult to accomplish and yet if vital for the well being of our relationships. The key insight from John Gottmans research on relationships is the importance of restraining a defensive reaction, even when you perceive yourself to be attacked. If the reactive conflict cycle is not broken, it will escalate. Dont Make Excuses Defending yourself over something you did keeps you stuck in resistance. If someone has a problem with it, listen and sincerely consider their point of view. Acknowledge your role in the situation without attempting to explain yourself. If there’s validity in what they say, thank them and try to integrate the new information without beating yourself up over it. After all, you’re a work in progress. If the criticism seems unfounded, smile and… Let it go. Steve and Jarl gratitudetwentyfourseven/2014/10/dont-make-excuses/
Posted on: Thu, 02 Oct 2014 16:27:57 +0000
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