Women’s Silent Treatment #DECODED.! Reassure her that she’s still the one You may have ignored her in the recent past – she wouldn’t have told you so back then, but there’s a build up overtime. She doesn’t feel as your ‘apple of the eye’ anymore, not like how it was when the two of you were dating. Ask yourself if you’ve been inattentive to the smallest of talks she’s had with you? Reassuring her with love, words, actions and gestures – no shades of doubt involved, would work here. Stop saying things like “Honey, I try to...” or “Honey, You know I love you” – doesn’t work. Be vocal about your relationship Women tend to take faster steps in a relationship than men and they would want to know how you feel about being in one with them. This is a trap – they want to know how you feel about being WITH THEM. You don’t want to hurt her, do you? Be honest about your feelings and respond like a man. For example, “Honey, I really don’t know where we are heading, but with you, I’m sure the path taken is the right one”, or let her speak her mind, and after a guarded response knowing what she wants to hear – speak up. Remember the date(s) Now, who can ever forget this one? The first day you kissed, the first day you met, your anniversary, her pet’s birthday or anything at all. Try saving yourself from this one, but remember the date, for it could come handy the next time. Save yourself from embarrassment and sleeping on the couch tonight, set the dates on your ‘mobile reminder’. Honey, do you think I’m fat? Well, this question could come before or after (meaning someone she met might have hinted she is) the silent treatment. Now, no woman likes to be told she is fat. It is supposedly rude for no apparent reason. You could say “No” and smile nicely – give her a hug and feel her curves to make her feel special. But, the best thing she would really like her man to tell her would be “No, of course not - Youre my kind of pretty”! What do you think about *some person’s name*? You need to come up with a really safe answer for this one. She might have noticed you talking (flirting for her) to that pretty girl, and would like to know if you are interested. Don’t try too hard to convince you weren’t checking anyone out. The more you try to prove, the more she’d believe you actually were. Who was that on the phone? Oh ho-ho! If you have been taking calls at odd timings and been talking to someone a lot, then be sure to expect this question. Surely, there is going to be a lot of drama that is going to follow and of course, the silent treatment. Let her know who it was, maybe she is really interested in your work, your social life and the people you meet – unless of course you are painting the town red behind her back; which is so NOT DONE! You know her how? Now, who hasn’t heard of this one? It is a classic, been there for ages, usually followed by a lot of bawling – the next generation of MEN would face the same. You could tell her she’s a friend from office, your old school pal, an acquaintance you met at a conference – make her understand the ‘other lady’ is no ‘biggie’ in your relationship status quo. Did you or did you not read the post-it on the fridge? Always, always, read every post-it around; you never know when she could bring this back on you. It could be a chore you were supposed to do and you forgot! Divorces have happened over post-its in some countries, and you for sure do not want to follow suit. Why don’t you answer your calls? The stare and look while this question being asked can make one feel jittery. Irrespective of your valid reasons being given, there would be many more questions to follow – think and respond. Apologise for the action unattended and hear her out. There must be something she wants to say, or vent out. Once she’s done talking, patiently sit her down with her favourite drink or cosy up with her and tell her how much you missed her So why couldn’t you text me? It would have taken just a minute. You wouldn’t have an option here, apart from saying you were caught up at work, was at a meeting, was in a no-cell phone-allowed-zone, or simply say the phone was on silent and hence the delay. Pssst! Beware, most texting apps show last seen, so find a reason that is believable. There are many more instances of the silent-cold-shoulder-treatment meted out to men by their spouses, lovers, live-in mates and more; remember, honesty is the best policy, but think before you speak. Men and women are wired differently, aren’t they???
Posted on: Wed, 10 Dec 2014 18:14:28 +0000
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