You know, I was thinking ... (when you have AML and youre waiting for your transplant, and youre contemplating your mortality during your second bout of cancer in one year, you have a LOT of time to think!) ... I believe this: If you arent committed to your partner deep in your heart, and youre not in the relationship for the long haul, there are certain things you just shouldnt do, because it strings the other person along and gives the absolute WRONG impression. Inviting your partner to spend holidays at your various familys houses is one of those things. Inviting your partner to other family gatherings, such as graduations, is another. But thats not really what this post is about. This post is about the area metroparks, and the Cuyahoga Valley National Park. My ex has totally spoiled those places for me, forever. Although I can easily be a City Girl when I need to be, I was raised in rural Avoca, Wisconsin, a town that had 400 people in it. I attended a one-room schoolhouse. I grew up surrounded by the most beautiful nature you can imagine! I cant adequately describe it in words. Imagine the most green and lush landscape you can picture ... I guarantee, where I grew up was ten times as pretty as that. It looked like freaking Middle-earth. So, yeah ... Im a Nature Girl at heart, and nature keeps my heart happy. Nature is very, very special to me. Its in my soul. My ex knew that. My ex also knew he wasnt in the relationship for the long haul. So, what does Mr. Selfish do?? Last spring and summer, almost every weekend, he took me hiking at every single park in the area you can imagine, plus arboretums. We even went here, mohicanstatepark.org/ We explored beautiful nature together, down to the smallest flower. He acted so into it ... we even talked about the flowers we had seen on the weekends during the week; looked them up together, discussed the meanings, etc. We went so far as to collect pretty rocks together. Folks, I had no idea he was just phoning it in! We also often stopped at goofy local restaurants together on our many one-tank road trips to Ohio parks, and kidded around and created lots of inside jokes because they were so weird. Again ... not a clue that I was only Ms. Right For Now. He also made sure to see as many beautiful sunsets with me as he could; he made a big-*ss deal about it, put his arm around me for them, photographed them so we could remember them, etc. Sadly, I was delighted and thrilled, but he was only pretending. On the last weekend before we went on vacation together to Hilton Head, and about two weeks before leukemia turned my world upside down, and my ex pulled a sickening, cowardly, and bizarre disappearing act, we explored this park: summitmetroparks.org/ParksAndTrails/GoodyearHeights.aspx Its actually a surprisingly beautiful park! We found this lovely trail that went through a meadow. He made sure that we stopped and watched the monarch butterflies together, and we made plans to come back to see their migration in a month. We sat and listened to some mysterious church bells ringing in the distance, and made plans to visit the countryside of France together. I mean, seriously! If youve got one foot out the door, as my ex obviously did, please do NOT do these things to a trusting woman, especially not one who loves nature! And PLEASE do NOT go stargazing or meteor-watching with a woman if youre only looking to tap that. Do NOT, under any circumstances, discuss the Milky Way with that woman and her childhood memories of how bright and beautiful it was, and allow her to talk about how much she wishes you could go back in time with her and see how it looked in Wisconsin, if you are only interested in throwing it in! I cant stand to even THINK about any parks in Ohio right now, much less look forward to visiting them when Im healthy again! Its ruined for me now. And I hope the Milky Way fades away like a liver spot and I never have to see it again. Single guys reading this: in all honesty ... theres no need for all that butterfly-watching, waterfall-finding, forest-path-exploring, sunset-watching, romantic-hiking, rock-collecting, star-gazing, and campy/goofy local-restaurant-exploring if you are just wanting a regular piece of a**, and you are not committed in your heart. Its not right to do these things to a good woman who trusts you. My advice to single guys looking for a slice without the commitment is to stop lying, stop misleading, and take responsibility. Dont go to a park, go to a lounge. Dont ruin the beauty of nature for innocent women who have done nothing wrong to you, and who are just trying to get along in the rat-race of life same as everybody else. There are places for men in your situation to go, and more appropriate ways to fulfill your needs. Dont use Mother Nature to break a womans heart.
Posted on: Mon, 10 Nov 2014 02:21:22 +0000
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