(cont. Of resolving conflict creatively-#how_to_fight_) Thirdly, we need to bring our self into a point of been aware of our own true thoughts and feelings... If for example we feel angry, it will be very important for us to acknowledge our anger...(accept the fact that you are angry), But we should also be aware of the feelings and thoughts that layed the foundation for that anger, knowing the feelings that lay beneath our anger is very important... For example, anger often covers off anxiety or fear... Instead of being aware of our fear, we get angry. (we kind of feels safer to use anger and scare of the messages intended to help us), but it (anger) only makes matters worse. Often times we use anger to stop others (partners, collegues, children, etc ) from getting close because we fear intimacy. Also, another equally destructive fact is, we deny our own feelings altogether and pretend to be something we are not. These reactions prevents conflict resolution. Unresolved conflicts create resentment and festering resentment breaks many relationships. An author: John Powell expressed this attitude poignantly when he said, ...We defend our dishonesty (denying and not sharing out our true feelings), on the grounds that it may hurt another person. And then, having rationalized our phoniness into nobility, we settle for superficial relationships... (to be cont.) PRAYERS:- Dear lord, often times Ive used anger to put off been told the truth and that has kept pains and hate in countless hearts, pls lord, have mercy on me and help my life... I want to hencefort by your grace be able to control my anger and follow peace with all men...thank you Jesus for hearing and answering me...your gracefully in Jesus name...amen... ...Until we meet again, keep smiling...
Posted on: Tue, 25 Mar 2014 21:29:19 +0000
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