ift.tt/eA8V8J Alright ladies. Please bear with me. I promise this is all related to baby things. Last November my mother was diagnosed with Inflammatory Breast Cancer. Its a fairly rare and difficult to treat form of breast cancer that has a low long term survival rate. At the time we were told she had something like three years. Earlier this year they discovered metastases in her bones, but she was responding really well to chemo, so no one seemed too worried about them. About six weeks ago her doctors discovered a number of tumors in her brain and stopped chemo to do brain radiation for a few weeks. She has a scan scheduled for next week to see what effect the radiation had. Over the last week shes been unable to eat and experiencing abdominal pain so my stepfather took her to the ER last night where they did a CAT scan and found liver metastases. Shes nauseous, weak and in terrible pain despite morphine, lorazepam, and tons of cannabis (we live in WA). At this point, even if the radiation did anything she has weeks to months left. Im wondering if shes going to meet her grandson. Obviously she and my stepfather both need a lot of help and support right now. Myself and two of my sisters live in the same town as my parents, but one of them is 13 and the other has a job. Im currently on leave from work so I have the most time to spare. Im ten weeks away from my due date now, and obviously feeling very pregnant and tired. I also happen to be one of those lucky women who has morning sickness throught her whole pregnancy. Its gotten a lot better over the last few weeks (it used to be all day every day), but Im still sick most mornings. As you can imagine, I mostly just want to sleep and take care of myself. Unfortunately it seems I dont have that luxury. Im helping as much as Im able, but I just dont know if I can handle pregnancy, childbirth and my mother dying all at once. As if all of that wasnt enough, my birth plans have been thrown into upheaval. My mother is trained as a midwife, and although its been a few years since she practiced, shes been adamant that she wants to deliver the baby. Hes going to be her first grandchild and was going to be her last delivery. However its clear that she cant handle that now. My husband and I really want to have a homebirth, but midwives are scarce in our area and Im not sure we can afford to hire one, even if we can find one who will take us on at such short notice. I have a great OB and the local hospital is not bad, as far as hospitals go, but I really, really dont want to have my baby in a hospital unless I absolutely have to. The original plan was for my MIL, who is a trained paramedic, to assist my mother with the delivery so that we could be at home with our families. But now I just dont know what to do. I dont even know where to begin unraveling this mess. Should I just give up and go to the hospital? Should we try to find a midwife? Should I even be thinking about any of this, or just focusing on my mom? What would you ladies do?
Posted on: Sat, 18 Oct 2014 07:07:31 +0000
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