in fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in it. the word fall is not right. only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. somehow they were managing and standing. they cannot manage and cannot stand - they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. they were always ready to fall on the ground and creep. they dont have the backbone, the spine; they dont have that integrity to stand alone. a mature person has the integrity to stand alone. and when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it; he just gives. and when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that his love has been accepted, not vice versa. he does not expect you to be thankful for it - no, not at all; he does not even need your thanks. he thanks you for accepting his love. and when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomenon: they are together yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. but their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it; they become more individual. two mature persons in love will help each other to become more free. there is no politics involved, no diplomacy , no effort to dominate. how can you dominate the person you love? just think it over. domination is a kind of hatred, anger, enmity. how can you think of dominating the person you love? you would love to see the person be totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. thats why i call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. their individualities are not effaced - they have become more enhanced. the other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned. immature people in love destroy each others freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all kinds of bondages.
Posted on: Tue, 24 Jun 2014 22:31:23 +0000