#oyem Hi Admin how are you doing? I never thought I will be this confused in my entire life hence I am writing to you to seek for advice. Please hide my id. Before I start, I must commend your good work, God bless you. I met Kelvin when I was working in a business center. He used to come there to make calls and buy recharge card, I was barely 17 years after my secondary school. One day I was robbed of about 10,000 naira in the shop, I was crying and he walked in, he asked me why I was crying and I told him, he felt for me and gave me the money. Since then, we became friends. He helped me get another job where I was working and going to school at the same time. He had little or no money then but we will always manage. The little we had, we shared and everything was going on well and we are very happy. Few years later he got an appointment in government and money stared coming in. Not just the job, he is also using his brain to make money (genuinely) because he is very intelligent. Kelvin started sleeping around, he had more girls in his life that men (trust girls + he is good looking), things began to fall apart. He became so bad that he even sleep with my friends. Kelvin can sleep with two sisters at the same time without remorse (after all its money they want). But in all these, he try as much as possible to hide them from me , but I will always find out because it was just too obvious. I love Kelvin very much and he said he loves me too. Should I say that he saw me through school? Yes he did, not minding that I was working. He placed me on monthly allowance and he made sure that I lacked almost nothing. He will always give me money without me asking for it and any day I asked him for money, he will always give me with apology saying that he is not supposed to wait for me to ask him for money. Kelvin has a good heart but he cannot overlook anything in skirt. After my service, we decided to get married but we don’t intermarry so we decided to travel abroad to get married. 1 year after my service, we couldn’t travel, It has been one excuse / mistake from the other. I later got a job in a small company in my state, Kelvin was also there with his numerous girls but what baffles me is the rate at which I forgive him even if I catch him in bed with another. I will be angry but for a short time, he took advantage of that to commit more crime. I will always pray to God to make him a better person. Two years after my service, we decided to go our separate ways since its not working out. I got a job in a bank in another state and I moved. Few months on the job I got admission in a school here in London, I told Kelvin and he gave me half of the tuition which was 1.3 million naira + another 1 million Naira for my PTA. I traveled in august last year. We still kept in touch but as friends now. In January this year, I couldn’t finish the remaining part of the tuition because I didn’t get a job, Kelvin still gave me another 1 million Naira to offset the bill. He also made sure that I was comfortable as he was sending me money from time to time. But he made it clear to me that I should start another relationship. Then Chuks came on board, he is everything I wanted Kelvin to be. Chuks is a good man, a practicing Christian with a good heart. He is somebody that is conscious of going to heaven and so am I ( unlike Kelvin) We became friends and we fell in love , we share some many things in common, both ideas and what have you. Chuks was to marry a lady he had been dating for 6 years ( he has even paid her bride price ) and the girl is patiently waiting for the wedding date to be fixed. According to Chuks, each time they fixed the wedding, something always come up and they postponed it. He met the girl few months before he came to UK. I have no reason to doubt him because he is a very sincere man. Their relationship was more like phone relationship though he had gone home a few time since then. Chuks is very sincere and God fearing, to me , he is prayer answered. Chuks proposed to me and I accepted pending when he settles the other girl’s family. Early this month Kelvin started coming back that he is sorry and want us together again that he made an inquiry that we can actually get married ( my dad even said he will not be an obstacle few years ago I asked him about my marriage to him) . I confided in a friend and she told me that Chuks is a gold digger that want to reap where he did not sow, but I don’t see it that way rather I see myself as a gold digger trying to dig from Chuks. Kelvin is threatening fire if he did not marry me that he will not be alive and allow another person to take away his sweat. Do remember that I said that he made it clear to me to look for another man few months ago. The scenario now is , Chuks ended his 6 years relationship just for us and that girl was his first love because he is not into women. Then Kelvin want to come back saying that he is now a changed person that he acted out of youthful exhobirant and there is no life for him without me. I am so confused right now I can’t even concentrate on my studies again. I love Kelvin very much but Chuks may not survive it if I leave him and he loves me dearly. More so, Kelvin is made but Chucks is still struggling with a very bright future Pls guys I need advice before I go crazy!
Posted on: Sat, 05 Jul 2014 10:51:33 +0000
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