❤️ this guy is usually at least 95%-100% spot on and this post is no different. Ive worked with kids who are rigid in all to some areas, I was married to an Aspie who was rigid & inflexible, and while I can often see and intellectualize shades of grey, under overload, anxiety or early in the morning or when Im done/just exhausted from navigating the NT world, I can be very rigid & inflexible. In fact often about things I couldnt care less about when Im calm. But the areas of cognitive distortion he talks about, I process that way almost all of the time, especially the all or none thinking, the negative emotions of experience clouding everything and the need for the things to be clear, direct & concrete in instructions & communication. I hate maybe or whatever you want to do as answers to my direct questions. A yes or no question has 2 choices, not 3! If I ask what you want to do/eat etc, I want to know what you want and I have no preference myself. Id much rather an I dont know response if the other person has no preference and if the person doesnt want to do anything or wants to be alone, it either wont hurt my feelings or if it might it will hurt a lot less than the confusion and frustration of the wishy washy vague response that could mean you dont care what we do etc or could mean No and you think by being indirect, it will spare my feelings & that I will somehow just know which you mean by subtle nonverbal cues which News Flash: I and other autistic people cant read and/or process easily!
Posted on: Sat, 05 Jul 2014 00:17:53 +0000
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