26 Point plan for the Tarbiyyat of Children A Summary from Hazrat Musleh Maud’s (ra) book Min Haj-ut-Talibeen 1. Upon birth give Azaan in the right ear and Takbeer in the left ear. 2. Keep children clean. The external cleanliness has an impact on the mind. 3. Fix feeding times. This instils good habits at an early age. 4. Start toilet training early - try to set a regular pattern for their call of nature. 5. Feed fix portions at meal times, neither giving too much nor too little. 6. Vary the diet, giving more vegetables then meat. 7. As soon as the child grows, give it simple tasks – bring that here or put this there etc. 8. Encourage the habit of self control; do not hide items but train them not to touch or take items without permission. 9. Do not spoil children with too much love. 10. If the child is not able to eat something for some reason, the family should also not eat that. The child learns from your self- sacrifice. 11. During a child’s illness give careful attention, taking care not to spoil the child. 12. Tell children stories – but refrain from telling them horror stories. 13. Choose well mannered friends for the child. Good friends have a good effect, bad friends have bad effect. 14. Give children responsibility according to their age and understanding. This will instil confidence later in life. 15. Constantly remind children of their positive attributes. 16. Control an irritable child with wisdom, for example, by diverting its attention to other things. 17. Address children with respect. This will return respect to you and other elders. 18. Keep children away from the habit of lying, being proud, or becoming an introvert. Do this by setting a personal example 19. Keep children away from intoxicants – example tea 20. Discourage children from playing alone. 21. Do not let children remain naked. 22. Train children to admit their mistakes. Be sympathetic and on not reprimand them in front of others. 23. Give children pocket money. This will teach children responsibility and a sense of ownership. 24. Children should be taught to share their toys with others. 25. Teaching of good etiquette should be on going. 26. Keep an eye on their health. Ensure they are getting enough physical exercise.
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