A 4-Step Plan that Every Marriage Needs It’s never too late to make a plan in your marriage. All it takes is a conversation. You can have a heart to heart with your spouse or future spouse about what your hopes and dreams are for your marriage, your biggest fears, and how you can work together to make it through the inevitable storms. STEP 1 First things first, decide you’re in it for the long haul. Sure, you say for better or for worse and all the other things in your vows, but really consider what you’re saying. Know that it’s a possibility that things will get harder than hard, and make a decision that divorce is not an option, no matter what. Commit to each other that you will stick it out, because trouble don’t last always. STEP 2 Next, nurture your marriage regularly. Your marriage is like a car; it requires regular maintenance to perform the way it was intended. You wouldn’t go years without an oil change or weeks without gassing up. You need to treat your marriage as such too. The regular humdrum of your routine can get old fast. Sometimes, it’s best to get ahead of problems before they start. Consider a regular marriage checkup to see how you both are feeling about how things are going. Enrich your marriage with retreats that will give you memories to cherish together. You don’t have to be on the brink of divorce to get some counseling. STEP 3 Then, find allies. Every couple can benefit from having marriage accountability partners, people who will support you both, who will root for your marriage, and who want it to thrive. It can be an older couple or your peers. They can be family or friends. You don’t have to go through it all by yourselves. Marital allies can give you that boost when things get rough and talking to your spouse just isn’t going to make it better right away. But know the difference between telling all your business and having trusted people to confide in, seek advice from, and bounce ideas off of. STEP 4 Finally, remember you’re partners. Your husband or your wife is there to support you and vice versa. You’re on the same team. You’re going after the same thing. This plan is one you both come up with and both want. Your plan is your insurance. Don’t you feel safer living in your house or driving your car with insurance? You should feel more confident in your marriage when you and your spouse have a plan. Knowing you’re not going through it alone should give you the security to keep pushing. Does YOUR marriage have a plan?
Posted on: Mon, 30 Sep 2013 08:22:36 +0000
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