A behavior is always valuable somewhere at some time. Anger out of context may be an attempt to get people to understand. It may not however be useful or gain the desired result. Everything we do invariably has a positive intention. Our action is always towards obtaining a favourable outcome whether or not we are aware of it. A behaviour may appear negative to us but may not be so once we understand the intention behind it. We all have a reason for whatever we do. We are always aiming to achieve something. We might think of someone else’s action as disappointing. But the person performing it has a positive intention. By recognizing the positive intention, we can suggest alternative behaviours that are less harmful. Accepting that every behaviour has a positive intention, we are less likely to react adversely to other people’s actions. We may condemn other people whose actions are immoral or criminal. But from their perspectives, they have a positive intention in what they do. Whether you realize it or not, you often tend to judge others by their behaviour. It could very well be that he is driven by circumstances to act in that manner. Separate the man from his behaviour and you may only detest his behaviour but not him. Similarly, if society adopts “Love the prisoners, not their actions” it will facilitate ready acceptance of ex-prisoners and help change their characters or behaviour. When behaviour and identity are viewed as separate, you can change your behaviour and you tend to be more tolerant of other people’s behaviour however strange it may be. By believing that what you do and what you have is the real you, you have committed the gravest error in your life. Were all doing the best we can given whatever tools and resources we have, and the circumstances and situations were experiencing. Louise Hay said, Its important to remember that people are always doing the best they can, including you.
Posted on: Sat, 13 Dec 2014 09:39:06 +0000