A curious and intelligent reader commented on my Long Distance Relationship post on my blog - Long-distance relationships don’t work most of the time. You have been working on arduous & multifarious demesne. I hope you can tolerate the backwash but whatever you experience that would not be the ultimate. Still for your thirst you can proceed. Lemme focus on the awls & raiment of your application. Haha It is a game of sense, perception, imagination, mind, consciousness, working over the most acceptable Freudian Id as a psychic apparatus which one is the uncoordinated instinctual trend of emotion. Senses are physiological capacities; the primary gate of our senses is biology & chemistry. Perception is the sensory interpretation. Till today we have come across forty eight categories of emotions laid by ‘Id’ the locus. Entire emotional branches are coming from chemistry. Life is aggregation of occurrences including your ‘strangers’ existence. All the senses are accompanying you ever since. The frequency levels of your sensory mechanism are active.Denial, acceptance, ignoring, interiority, exteriority overlapping, knitting et-cetera. How can you deny the fact that you are the product of eventuality? Neither you could have denied the past nor can you deny the present same 4 the future, nobody can, ma dear. haha.. Let’s we talk on mind. Thought, imaginations are the key of our mind. Thoughts refer to ideation. Imagination lays its eggs in thalamus in the brain, which one is shaped by its experiences, information. Another part of mind is consciousness, it occurs in pineal gland. There is no more consciousness than P-consciousness & A-consciousness. Is there anythin about mind more than physicalism? Emotion is subject of temperament, personality; mood, disposition etc & those reciprocal influences are explainable. I hope you have understood what I wanted to mean ma dear. We need courage, confidence to become absorbent or accommodative. You have to facilitate your physical,social, educational, economical network. This is empowerment, haha. Haha primarily love is for matin,for a bond to overcome loneliness & to reinforce natural social instincts, to share by helpin in order to reduce stresses. Haha auto immune system. love is a restless divine passion for an unattainable ideal.it is sacred and ethereal-an ideal never to be attained.sometimes it is an reverent worship for an object beyond reach,a yearning by its nature incapable of fulfillment,a self-destructive passion like that of night for morning.. I didnt understand half of the comment, but I tried to reply, and here is what I said - Thank you for your highly descriptive and explanatory version of a simple word – LOVE. Long distance relationships ‘DO’ work. If you say LDRs don’t work, I can show you examples of ‘marriages’ not working, or traditional relationships falling flat on the name of trust and patience. It all depends upon the couple who are in a relationship, whether they have the will to wait, and continue, or they’re too weak and give up easily. Long distance relationships were the ones which were prevalent in Victorian era, and they were tougher ones as in that time the means of communication weren’t as profound and fast. Women would wait for their men for years, and the soldiers in battlefield would send messages to their waiting wives via pigeons or ravens. Those were also the relationships that worked. Talking about infidelity, then there are cases of infidelity in marriages nowadays, where a couple share a house, a room and even a bed, and still the partner feels a need to step outside in search of love. Long distance relationships are ‘not’ to be blamed for breaking people’s hearts because ultimately its the decision, willpower and strength of two people and the bond and love they feel for each other, that makes or breaks a relationship. Talking about scientific explanations and bio-medical references you stated, they’re alien to me as I’m from the field of engineering, for me, love is like a intra-network of two computers bound by user datagram protocol instead of a transmission control protocol. Having connection-less, unbound and free transmission without error check or redundancy check, ensuring trust and still the messages being delivered fully, without any flaw, and in the same contiguous line from sender to receiver, depicting the wholesome relationship between the partners. You can give as many complex definitions as you wish to, but in reality, nothing can define the word – LOVE – more than a newborn baby who is slipped into arms of his anticipated father after hours of wait – more than a girl who has been waiting to see his soldier-lover since one year – more than a boy who met his mother after she has been cured of her sickness – more than a friend who is waiting on college’s old tea-stall to meet his best-friend after a decade – more than a father who is ready to send his daughter off to a stranger’s home after raising her up with everything he ever had… Nothing can define love, more than the moments which become memories in the back of our mind and generate some abc chemical reaction in some xyz part of brain. It’s not the formulas we remember at the end, it’s the moments of happiness and joy we shared. Thank you!
Posted on: Mon, 05 May 2014 10:36:16 +0000