A reflection to self. ----------------- Heard this from a mother whom is around 10 years +- 5 years older than me. Aku pergi rumah anak aku , aku kena masak, dia balik rumah aku pun, aku kena masak I applauded those children, namely married ones, who always made a point to go back to visit their parents, and similarly, welcomed their parents to their own homes. However, often times, children overlooked the facts that when they seeked to enjoy masakan air tangan ibu , they have ironically turned their mothers into their personal cook. Nothing wrong with that , right? Not really. You see, most of these mums with grandchildren are really tired mums who seek to rest and awaiting for their turn to be served instead. Obviously, mums wont say it in front of their childrens face, right? Instead , usually they will choose to share their heart burden with their friends or nearby neighbours. I am surrounded by such mums, hence the reason I am sharing this. Aku penatlah. Seminggu anak aku balik. Hari2 aku kena masak. Dia orang anak beranak asyik melepak je depan tv atau computer Dear career (and non career) ladies. I know you are tired from office work and need to have a holiday once awhile. But please dont turn your parent/ in-laws house as a free food- and-boarding holiday gate away. Have the courtesy to help up in the kitchen, or insists on getting outside food or go out together for lunch and dinner together. If you insists on mums air tangan food , or mum simply refuse outsidevfood, at least go help her with the groceries (and insists on paying for it). Then, please be in the kitchen to prepare the ingredients. After all, mums house is your house, right. Dont just be a guest. Just let mum do the bare minimum, such as , putting all the prepared ingredients together. Better still, you prepare and let mum be the food tester. During ramadhan, most children will take the opportunity during week ends to come back to hv iftar with their parents. Very wonderful gesture. However, do call first, and tell your mum/in-law that you are visiting and not to busy herself in the kitchen, and that you are bringing enough food for everyone. Insist on this. Trust me, they appreciate this, than you coming back to surprise them with tangan kosong. Another example Si A tu balik buka puasa dengan anak beranak. Bila akak balik terawih, dia dah balik. Pinggan mangkuk kotor penuh dlm sink. Akak penat, terus tidor. Ingatkan ada yg tolong basuhkan nanti. Tapi tak ada. Lepas sahur, akak lah kena kemas semua.... ... may be after feeling guilty for complaining, she justified. Yelah, semalam, A macam tak sihat je, jadi tak sempatlah nak tolong kemas dapor agaknya.... Yup, no matter how hard we children treated her, mum will always try to justify to herself for our actions or inactions. I know these are all simple common sense. Unfortunately, simple common sense is no longer common nowadays. It is sad that it has become a rare commodity, instead. Personally, I think, the tv advertisement and drama melayu is so full of over rated emotional scenes of mum insisting on being the cook for their grown up children and grqndchildren. May be, it is true if mums havent seen their sons, daughters or grandchildren for years. But I think, it still doesnt justify the situations mentioned above. Ladies and gentlemen, Lets make this ramadhan as an a opprtunity for us to gain ample rewards and blessings from Allah s.w.t. No matter how busy, tense or difficult or career and family life is, lets try to make our mum as the real Queen for the extented family kingdom ; and not keep making her as the kitchen helpers that we may have unintentionally made her to be. A hard pill to swallow, but one that is needed in todays environment. InsyaAllah.
Posted on: Sun, 06 Jul 2014 00:13:29 +0000
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