Claire Scott Showed me this Article heres an excerpt from it Id Like to know you guys thoughts Tracy Clayton: There’s definitely a link there. Rape culture made the construction of the friend zone possible. Rape culture strips a woman of her right to consent, and it punishes her when she dares take control of her body, and the friend zone does the same thing. They’re both built on the premise that in the face of a man’s will, a woman should never say no; that no doesn’t actually mean no, it means try harder; that a man can mine her for what he wants because he has the right to. If it was understood and accepted that women are people with the right to govern themselves, neither the friend zone nor rape culture would exist. I’ve had to ex quite a few male friends from my life because they tried to take advantage of me after I made it plain that I wasn’t interested in being anything more than friends. I was dating a guy, and while we were out one day we met another guy who was very cool, and the three of us struck up a conversation about some blogs and online projects we had going on. We exchanged information, vowing to hang out and do some brainstorming together. He and I hung out solo a time or two and I felt very accomplished because I overcame a huge anxiety by deciding to trust this person who appeared to be a really good guy. I told him, pointedly, that I was not looking for anything other than friendship. He said he understood, assured me I’d have no problems from him. I decided that I would give him the benefit of the doubt, and that if something did happen, the fault would be his for misleading me, not mine for trusting him. Time wears on and the guy that I’m dating and I decide to chill things out. I can’t remember if I told my new friend that or not (I don’t think I did), but shortly after, he and I were out and I had quite a bit to drink. As the night went on and things got wavier, I realized that I was in a booth with this guy who twice grabbed my face and kissed me. I was too drunk to gather myself to correct him or smack him, as I wanted to do the next morning, and instead excused myself and called my best friend to come get me, which he did. I felt horrible. I felt like the entire time we were hanging out and enjoying each other’s company, he was just biding his time, plotting and planning on how to get what he wanted. I felt like I was just a thing for him to conquer. I felt deceived, lied to, and belittled. At the same time, I felt like I was the one who had done something wrong, that I must have somehow led him on even though I was so careful not to flirt, not to wear anything too revealing around him, not to give too many casual little touches while talking or having lunch, and even though I told him pointedly that I wasn’t interested. That was the most frustrating feeling of all: feeling like I must have caused it even though I knew better. I think It somebody whos mad for getting dooped -_- Lol SHE got drunk with dude SHE decided to sleep with him AND She wants to act like somehow hes an evil genious Lmao. I personally dont see what anybody did wrong here....... but shes blaming him for going and getting the bunz. so anybody please explain what he did wrong?
Posted on: Sat, 05 Jul 2014 22:04:58 +0000
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