FEATURED LETTER on IT’S COMPLICATED with ALEX “HOW CAN I GET HIM TO COMMIT?” Hallo Alex! I met my now boyfriend of four years about six years ago when we were both starting college. Now I would like to take the next step in our relationship and start making definitive plans, like say getting married and think of having our own place. He tells me that, yes, he wants to get married, but right now is too soon for him. We also can’t agree on how many kids we’d like to have. I say I want three or four kids. He gives me a doubtful look and asked, “Really?”. I know with the economic crisis people are scaling back on the number of kids they have, but we are pretty well off financially. Still, he’d like just one. In fact, he really dislikes to even discuss children. He has these ideas that we will sacrifice our lives if we have them, meaning we will never have any fun ever again if we ever have a child. Every pained expression of his is also accompanied by the final phrase of “Someday, just not now.” We also can’t agree on smaller things, like vacations. He says, “Let’s take a vacation,” but, when I offer possible ideas, he turns them down. And then he has the nerve to complain that I never wanted to figure something out. Or I didn’t have a suitable back-up plan. I also hate that every time I sit alone with his mother my boyfriend abandons me, and she just talks about herself. Or her beloved son (my boyfriend’s brother) — the man that threatened to do bodily harm to me and my boyfriend (he threatened to break down the door and hurt us), SO, YES, I HATE HIS BROTHER! I don’t want to talk about him. I don’t want to see him! I don’t want to go to their home! Unfortunately, the influence that others have on him is so great. Every time he and I discuss something he excitedly repeats our ideas to his parents, they immediately shut him down, and I am once again let down over something, whether it’s future plans like marriage, or a home, or a vacation.Why can’t we make plans without it going through his parents? So what do you think? Does my boyfriend really want to be my husband or is he just a non-committal boyfriend? – Littlemissannoyed ~Uhh… so many things going on with you two but one thing’s for sure you guys cannot agree on anything and you can’t stand his family and they don’t like you. But you still wanna marry him… really? You actually didn’t list down anything you like about him. Ok, if you wanna be UNHAPPY for the rest of your life, go on marry him. :/ Haha! Girl, you still have time to save yourself. Think about it. But that’s just me, what do you guys think?
Posted on: Fri, 07 Jun 2013 05:00:16 +0000
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