Feigning confusion: Manipulator tries to play dumb by pretending he or she does not know what you are talking about or is confused about an important issue brought to his attention. Brandishing anger: Manipulator uses anger to brandish sufficient emotional intensity and rage to shock the victim into submission. The manipulator is not actually angry, he or she just puts on an act. He just wants what he wants and gets angry when denied. Vulnerabilities exploited by manipulators According to Braiker, manipulators exploit the following vulnerabilities (buttons) that may exist in victims: -the disease to please -addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others -Emotophobia (fear of negative emotion) -lack of assertiveness and ability to say no -blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries) -low self-reliance -external locus of control According to Simon, manipulators exploit the following vulnerabilities that may exist in victims: naïveté - victim finds it too hard to accept the idea that some people are cunning, devious and ruthless or is in denial if he is being victimized over-conscientiousness - victim is too willing to give manipulator the benefit of the doubt and see their side of things in which they blame the victim low self-confidence - victim is self-doubting, lacking in confidence and assertiveness, likely to go on the defensive too easily. over-intellectualization - victim tries too hard to understand and believes that manipulator has some legitimate understandable reason to be hurtful. emotional dependency - victim has a submissive or dependent personality. The more emotionally dependent the victim is, the more vulnerable he is to being exploited and manipulated. Manipulators generally take the time to scope out the characteristics and vulnerabilities of their victim.
Posted on: Sun, 31 Aug 2014 08:01:46 +0000
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