Fighting the Battle of the Heart: Waiting I discovered there are too many unwilling to wait on God’s provision for their lives; especially when it comes to relationships. Our first tendency is to always control our situation. We purpose in our heart, “this man is going to become my husband, or this woman will be my wife.” You know, we will make it happen! However, we must not take our desire and vision of marriage out of God’s hands into our own. God has your best intentions at heart, He was the one who said, “For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope (Jer. 29:11). God wants you to have the best future possible, He is in your corner! In our relationships what we interpret as someone being retained from us, is simply God asking, “Do you trust me? Will you put your relationship into MY hands?” In my new book “Awakened to My Wife” available on Amazon in September 2014, I shared the story of how I had to trust the Lord with my relationship. God continued to ask me to trust Him and give Him the things I held dearest. One of those things was the never-ending hope to marry Rose. I surrendered it completely to God, putting it in His hands. He asked me the same thing with most everything, until one day I told the Lord, “Yes, nothing is more important than You. What I want most is to do whatever You ask, to go wherever You call.” With this surrender, I came to understand God’s rest and peace like I had never experienced it before. Basically, the book is the story of how our relationships with our heavenly Father grew through our commitment to WAIT on Him to bring about His best in our lives. And now, after 25 years of marriage, I continue to see the WISDOM of our Heavenly Father through WAITING. Thank God I waited, and did act out of fear. Acting out of fear is what happened to Saul when Samuel told him to wait on him before going to war. Saul thought the Lord forget about him, and failed to wait; the consequences were severe. Waiting produces maturity in relationships! On several occasions I have spoken with women whom I especially found the tendency to want to RUSH a relationship from friendship to marriage. Women are awesome planners, and they have “in their mind” what they foresee and where they envision the relationship going most of the time. However, we must not abort the purposes of God through prematurity. Prematurity is a term used to describe when a baby is born early. For most women, pregnancy lasts around 40 weeks. Babies that are born between 37 and 42 weeks are considered full-term, and babies born before 37 weeks are considered premature. When we try to make things happen before the fullness of time, it will be premature and cause complications. While not all premature babies experience complications, being born too early can cause short-term and long-term health problems for preemies. Generally, the earlier a baby is born, the higher the risk of complications. Birth weight plays an important role, too. Some problems may be apparent at birth, while others may not develop for weeks or months. The same applies to relationships. When we act prematurely, usually what we are trying to do will not be accepted by others. We will not have peace during the ordeal, and there will be endless snags and glitches. Recently, I received an email from a beautiful young lady who shared how many in her church fellowship were not accepting of her new relationship. Well, after a long email exchange with her, I shared how I don’t believe it’s so much the people rejecting her relationship as much as what she is trying to do is premature. When we meet the person we believe has the potential of being our life-partner, we get a little worried about WAITING. Listen, if it is God’s will for you to be together, He will keep you for each other until the time is right. Even God Himself does not act until the appropriate time, “But when the FULLNESS of the TIME had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman…(Gal. 4:4). We must learn to surrender the possibility of every one of our relationships to the Lord. We must decide that I’d rather draw closer to the Lord than anything else, even if it means giving up my dreams with my new founded love and marriage. We should indicate to the Lord that we’re committed to doing things His way. When this happens in your heart, your relational dreams will come true.
Posted on: Wed, 06 Aug 2014 13:40:18 +0000
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