From my newsletter column Dear Annie G, What is the most important thing in a relationship? JG, Texas Dear JG, The answer is simple, but living the answer, can be challenging. The most important thing in a relationship is that we like the other person. This is not a “I like them in theory” kind of like. It means that you hold a warm spot in your heart and always think the best of them. If two people go to a counselor and they like each other, but still have problems, they have a good chance they can work through anything. If a couple goes in for counseling and they don’t like each other, nothing the therapist does will work. Communicating well with someone you don’t like is like taking castor oil for your immune system. It’s not anything you do with fervor. You do it because you think it is good for you. Liking someone gives our differences a compassionate edge, and without that edge, relationships can never flourish. When I get mad at my husband, I work through the upset internally or maybe we talk, and then I feed my mind with things that I like or admire about him. I think of the fun we’ve had together or of our similar quirky sense of humor. There’s no doubt that when I send out good vibes about him, our relationship improves. Thanks for asking, Annie G
Posted on: Tue, 09 Jul 2013 03:13:05 +0000
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