God knows that I am such an OPTIMIST. Its just that, these past few days, I have to deal with DARK CLOUDS! I dont know. Maybe my Mom was right after all. That I should learn how to let negativity roll off my back. -i got this from FN. must admit..it hit me:) ASK MYSELF IF THE CRITICISM IS VALID. Before you get hurt or take your detractors’ words to heart, ask yourself whether there is any truth to what they’re saying first. If there is, then the best thing to do is to work on a way to fix it. There’s a difference between giving constructive criticism and hurling insults, though. If you realize that people are being unnecessarily hurtful, don’t let their comments affect you. Only take in what will help you in the future. If all their comments do is make you feel bad about yourself, then there’s no use in listening to them. DONT DWELL. Learn to let go. If their comments end up depressing you, youll start messing up. You might even end up validating what they’re saying about you! So the next time they bash you, just turn a deaf ear to what they’re saying. If you have to listen, do so, but file the comments away and forget about them. Instead of dwelling and wondering about what else you could be doing wrong, focus on what youre doing right and what you can do to improve yourself. TALK TO THEM. If, after all your efforts, they still continue to bash you, consider confronting them and letting them know how you feel. Detractors aren’t necessarily your enemies. They may come in the form of FRIENDS or FAMILY who dont even realize that what theyre doing is lowering your self-esteem. Be honest. Chances are, once they understand the situation, they’ll start being more positive and stop piling on the negativity. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. At the end of the day, your detractors can only do damage to you if you let them. Remember that everyone has to deal with them at some point in life—and you’ll find that the more you achieve, the more you’ll be under other people’s scrutiny. The only way to deal and grow as a person is to learn from experience. Work on building your self-esteem by learning to value yourself. Give yourself compliments for a job well done and congratulate yourself when you know you’re doing great. It’s not being self-absorbed if it makes you feel good about yourself and helps you become a better person. -AMEN! #feelingbetter #thanksMOM
Posted on: Thu, 24 Oct 2013 02:37:50 +0000