HI Karen and all my face book friends. Things area going well. I have had a rough few Months. After Dick passed away I had so much to do. I wanted to get the house on the market. I have always told everyone, not to make any rash decisions for at least a year and my Dr. reminded me that I had had over a year to think about it while Dick was sick. She was right. I realized I could not take care of it and I did not want my kids spending their time caring for me. I needed a lot of help from them and others to get it ready for sale. The little things I had to do always went into something big that had to be done first. The house was 27 years old and Dick was not able to do everything that needed to be done and would not think of hiring anyone to do it, as he totally expected to get better and do it himself. We first got ready for an estate sale to get rid of all his tooooools etc. It was tremendous. I had 8 people helping me. Next came a new railing on the deck all the way around the house. After starting that we found we needed to replace some boards, which ended up replacing all of them as the stringers were rotten and needed to be replaced first. Les and I stained boards for weeks. My brother in law and Steven did the work. In the mean time my air conditioning went out and a 3 year old garage door had to be replaced and the inside of the garage had to be re sheet rocked. Les and I wanted to get the house on the market by June and it did not get done until July. I started going thru the house and get things sorted out and hauled to the garage for another garage sale. In the mean time Les was spending 6 hours a week just mowing and Steve and Rawleigh were trying to get the rest of the outside work done. Les and I spent many hours burning brush piles and stacking things to go to the garbage and recycle. About the first of August I got very sick and was falling apart. of course they thought it was depression and I went along with it. I did not feel as though I could drive so someone had to get me food, which I was not eating and take me to the Dr. I lost 12 pounds. My Dr. was trying to take care of it with pills and I finally got so bad that I told her I had to be hospitalized until they found out what was going on. Of course the hospital did not want me so she asked if I would go to :Reflections". It was for people with depression among others. She said it would just be until they got my meds figured out. I had to have a physical before going in. When I got there I made up my mind I was going home the next day. I did not belong there, but by the next day I decided if this was going to make me well I would stay. On Tuesday the report came back on all the tests I had and they found I had a urinary track infection. That was my problem. They sent me home on Thursday and I have been fine ever since. They wanted me to go to therapy and I gave it a try and it was not for me. I found a two bedroom apartment in a retirement home, where I already knew 18 people. I will be closing on my house on the 18th of October, but I moved into the apartment on the first of September and I am slowly getting it put together. I had to buy some new furniture, as my old was too big for the apartment, and more things because I only have two bedrooms and two baths, and a kitchen with two drawers. I am trying to find furniture with drawers and cabinets that will fit. Not an easy job. Thank God for Lesli, Steven and Jim. I am busier than a one armed paper hanger. Les and Jim have been doing all the moving of the heavier boxes. I am still not eating well, but I think I will start as soon as I find the kitchen counter. I have a lot of friend stopping and probably eat out at least a day. I am doing great and have joined a grief group, and I will give that a try. I know things are going to work out and I never thought I could leave my house, but I love my apartment and being in town. The hard thing was getting rid of my dog, but I found a new home for him and they love him. They also have grand children for him to play with. Everything has fallen into place and I am back volunteering. Hope all is well with all of you. Ida MacFarland
Posted on: Sat, 14 Sep 2013 13:30:22 +0000
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