HOW TO GET OVER SOMEONE WHO DOESNT LOVE YOU BACK Some romantically call it unrequited love, while others prefer the term emotional hell. Either way, it is no fun to love someone who doesnt love you back. Dont go into stalker mode. Your best move now is to separate from the individual and address any self esteem issues that developed from the situation. Dont waste your time trying to fix the relationship. Move forward. STEP 1 Grieve the end of the relationship as you would any other. Cry all you want. You can also write down your thoughts because this might help you confront reality. In the end, realize that the relationship you felt existed was not real. Youre mourning the loss of an idea, not a reality. Allow this to comfort you. STEP 2 Assess your self-esteem. Youve taken a hit. This is the time to treat yourself especially well. Get out and see people and talk with your friends. Dont wallow in pity alone in the dark. STEP 3 Ditch the romantic notions by deleting old photos or messages from your ex. The sooner you face facts and accept the situation, the easier and sooner youll be able to move on. Going through breakups is part of life, and youre not the only person facing this challenge. STEP 4 Look to the future. So, youre in the stink right now -- fair enough. However, look down the line. See yourself happy, healthy and with a partner who loves you for you. Know that this future exists and is within your grasp. In the meantime, try out new things. STEP 5 Avoid the person. If you are honest with yourself, you realize you cannot be friends with this person, at least not right now. For your own mental health, give yourself some breathing room. This means no phone calls, no social media, no checking on the ex through mutual friends. You should even delete the number from your phone. Break the addiction. Itll be good for you in the long run. STEP 6 Picture yourself as someone else. What would you say to a friend in your position? Get up! Forget about that jerk! Why are you putting yourself through this misery? Listen to your own advice. STEP 7 Dig deep. Figure out why you loved someone who didnt love you back. If this is a pattern, it is a huge red flag for you to explore. This calls for deep thought and self criticism STEP 8 Get your groove on. Go explore your world. Join up for a new class or vocation -- maybe photography, the martial arts, how to make different kinds of food or learn a new language. Meet new people. Whatever it takes, get out of your old routine and see how big the world really is. Have a nice weekend my friends!
Posted on: Sun, 31 Aug 2014 05:48:11 +0000