He (the Narcissist) must surround himself with the right people... announcing to the world that he is unique, special, adored, perfect, right. (James F. Masterson, M.D.) Like water cascading down a falls, compliments and tributes must flow to the narcissist at all times. (From Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.) The classic narcissist expects adoration from everyone, especially those closest to him--his/her spouses, children, siblings, etc. Those who do not tow this line are ejected from paradise, chastised and persecuted. Crossing the narcissist with the truth is a No No. He projects your oversight as primitive vituperative boiling rage. The narcissist often creates what I call Golden Circles that provide him with an endless flow of narcissistic supplies that keep his ego fully inflated. Spouses of narcissists are often hand picked by them to perpetually provide 24/7 adoration. This takes a heavy toll on the spouse who carries this dreadful burden. The spouse has no individual life. They shoulder an endless job that takes up all of their energy. In private the darkness comes down when the narcissist shows the real damaged enraged self and picks away at you with criticisms, humiliations, accusations and lies about your character. Narcissists have no mercy for anyone, especially those close to them. Married to a narcissist you are trapped in an ongoing nightmare. When you finally recognize that the real person behind the innumerable masks is a serious disturbed personality disorder and you tell others about this, many dont believe you. The narcissist is very clever at convincing most people that he/she is a very fine human being who is above reproach. This is especially the case if the narcissist has attained a great deal of worldly power and wealth and has an extraordinary attractive persona and is highly charismatic. Keep faith with yourself. Keep searching for the truth. Discover that the first rule is to take care of yourself and know that you are not to blame, that what you have learned is the truth about this spouse or parent. Trust yourself and what you now know. You will find other individuals who have gone through this perilous, horrific journey and understand your pain and care deeply. You can and will heal in the aftermath of the narcissist. You deserve this and were born to discover your true self, to thrive and grow and to use all of your many creative gifts and to meet those who are capable of loving and cherishing you.
Posted on: Fri, 21 Nov 2014 18:35:21 +0000
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