Hey Zane.... 😃 Im 19 years old. Im a full time college student (sophomore) pursuing my nursing degree. I work full time as well. I have twin daughters who mean the world to me. They are 15 months old. Their father wasnt active in their lives. I went through everything without him since he went ghost on me when he got me pregnant. Hes 23 years old. Well, one of my friends knows his mother and I found his mother on facebook. I messaged her privately and I told her that she has twin granddaughters. I never met his parents or anything and I didnt know them. His mother gave me her number and we chatted for a while on the phone. I told her everything and she even heard the girls talk. They were like 10 months old at the time. His mother didnt know that she had granddaughters. She lives 3 hours away from me. I took the girls to visit her and she welcomed us with open arms. Shes very nice. I met my daughters paternal grandfather too. All of them are loving people. To make a long story short, my daughters father wanted to do a DNA test. I had no problem with that. Of course, his ass would pay for the test. He paid for it and hes the father of both girls. He has tried spending time with them. Since they dont really know him like that, they always cry. That will be fixed with regular visits. After all, I wouldnt want to befriend a stranger either. Anyway, the girls dont have their fathers last name. He wasnt there throughout my pregnancy or anything. They have my last name. He wants me to change their last name to his, but Im skeptical. I may just hyphenate my last name with his. Im not sure yet. He also wants me to change their names. He thinks that their names are ghetto. I think that their names are unique and different. Baby A is named Amazing Honesty and Baby B is named Grace Sincere. I love their names and I picked them out. Im not changing their first and middle names, but I may add their fathers last name. I dont know yet. Do you think that I should? MY RESPONSE: Bottom line, he had the opportunity to be there during your pregnancy and the birth but he chose not to do a thing. If not for you reaching out to his mother, he probably would till be ghost. Personally, I would wait and see if he does become a stand-up guy before I do anything to appease him. If he does well for the next couple of years, you could consider giving them hyphenated last names. Good luck.
Posted on: Fri, 25 Jul 2014 01:31:16 +0000