Hey now! Dont put dirt on my grave just yet. After a major split that lasted almost a decade. Its wise to take time to heal, reevaluate what your wants & needs are. We (myself) needs time to look at the past relationship to see what you want or dont want in your life or if theres something you could improve on. Take time to establish yourself as you & get to know yourself again with out a significant other. Establish your independence, goals, dreams, & a life that you are happy with on your own. Then when u end up in a relationship youll be even more happy & itll be healthy. Learn to love yourself & enjoy who you are before getting into another relationship. You may not think you need time but you most definitely do & also, its also nicer for your. Close friends & family. Especially if you have children to wait & not jump right into something when you are just getting to know yourself with out that person there all the time. This is a must to be happy & find some one on the right terms. Too many emotions going on after a split. This is what Im doing & Im constantly finding out new things & strengths about myself i didnt even know existed. Ive gotten so much ambition, drive, willfulness back plus some characteristics I loved & missed like my eccentric silly side, my create artistic side, my need to want to help others & try to make the world a better place by preaching about positivity non judgement & compassion. I actually have time to think for myself. I use to be very Independent & Im getting that girl back. Every woman wether married or single needs to feel independent & know shes strong & can do anything she can to survive, not feel like she has to have a mans support or security to be ok. You never know what can happen. Same goes for men. Ive noticed once guys turn a certain age & go through a separation they immediately jump into another relationship. I have many theorys on why. If you do have children, They still have a mom & a dad. Now its just time for us to get to know the kids with out the other there. You dont need to rush into another relationship to have a Motherly figure around to help. That confuses them & they already have one. Same goes for women vice versa. Women dont need to try to find another baby daddy or a security blanket. Take this time if it does unfortunately happen to you to work on yourself, your spirituality, your family, friends, career, projects, & mainly children. This message is not directed at any one in particular person. Its my opinion & thoughts & some well known psychologist made me think about her words. Compliments are very flattering & Its nice of you all to contact me. But just chill. Being friends with some one for a while is a good deal. I just went through a divorce & getting a bunch of messages immediately going straight to the youre beautiful, wanna go out with me on date, I want to get to know you more. Isnt appealing to myself, some one that is building my life up from a divorce. I dont like to lead people on but I also do not mind being friends & talking for a while. Some of yall are people from my middle school high school & even college years which is cool to catch up. I dont want to offend anyone but I was getting a lot of messages the last two months so, I just thought I would put this out there so, yall know where Im at. Im a busy gal so if I dont respond to your messages for a while doesnt mean anything. This is why I am posting this because I dont want anyone to think Im looking for anything more than a friend at the moment. Itll happen when the time is right. I know a lot of people who dont go through this pattern but its wise. Plus youll be amazed at the things youll end up accomplishing when you are alone & dont have a companion after having one for so long. I feel like my life is really getting started & all the twist turns rough patches & beautiful memories are all just a period of my life I had to go through to go onto this next path journey of mine that is going to be amazing & full of passion for life, art, love, my kids. Etc.... Have a good night!
Posted on: Wed, 08 Oct 2014 03:44:31 +0000
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