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How to Have a Relationship with a Shy Girl Being in a relationship with a shy girl requires extra care. Here are some strategies that will help your relationship grow.Ad Steps 1Understand that shyness is very common.Over analyzing the situation will probably make things more complicated than they need to be. 2Earn her trust.Shy people often feel left on the sidelines, which can make their trust more difficult to earn. Be sure she feels safe with you before you try to move the relationship forward. 3Determine what kind of shy your girl is. *.If she talks very little or seems to go blank when spoken to, she may be verbally shy. *.If she withdraws when touched, she may be physically shy. *.If she is outgoing but never lets your relationship get past small talk, she may be cover-up shy. *.Depending on whether this manifests verbally or physically (or both), use the strategies in the following sections to determine the best course of action. Method One of Two: If She is Verbally Shy 1Take her to a safe, private place.Perhaps she really wants to open up to you but is afraid of being overheard by friends and strangers. Conversations that take place during parties, at restaurants, or even in quiet cafes can make a private person shut down. 2Gently initiate a deeper conversation.Be sure to start off with a positive topic (ex. something shes always dreamed of doing or seeing) rather than something that could turn negative (ex. her exes). *.Addressing her by name is a great way to announce that you want to discuss something important. Gauge her reaction to decide whether or not she is up for it and then act accordingly. (Be sure to have a backup topic planned in case she isnt.) 3Dont pry.Nothing will scare a shy person away more quickly than confrontation. *.Be especially careful to avoid accusatory language. Do you want to talk about something? will go over a lot better than Why dont you ever talk to me?? 4Let her steer the conversation.Once she is comfortable enough to open up to you, give her a chance to talk about what she wants - which is something she probably doesnt get to do very often. *.If she doesnt seem to know how to lead the conversation, keep it going by asking for details on things she has already discussed. Method Two of Two: If She is Physically Shy 1Ease into a physical relationship.Make it very clear that you honor her boundaries. 2Initiate physical contact slowly.Good strategies include: *.Briefly touching to her shoulder or forearm. *.Politely guiding her to a chair/door/etc. with your hand on her back. *.Pointing out a piece of lint/twig in her hair and offering to remove it. 3Watch and respect her reactions.If theyre favorable, you can gradually move on to more intimate gestures, such as tucking her hair behind her ear, holding her hand, or slipping your arm around her waist. If not, give her more time. 4Be careful of the vibes you put out.If you give her the impression that youre getting antsy for a more physical relationship, she may feel pressured to move faster than shes comfortable with; if she acts on this, chances are she will end up resenting you. Ad Tips *.Make eye contact often when talking to her, if she really trusts you, she will start to look at you more as you talk to her. 4 Helpful? 1 *.Shy people can be emotionally tender, so be kind! 4 Helpful? 0 *.Doing activities you both enjoy might help her open up to you.
Posted on: Fri, 29 Aug 2014 09:41:48 +0000

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