How to Talk to Yourself When Nobody isListening and You Want to Do you ever pay attention to the thoughtsinside your mind? And more importantly doyou ever notice the way in which you talk toyourself? We all pay a lot of attention to the way wecommunicate with the outside world but weoften neglect to improve the way wecommunicate with ourselves. When it comes to motivating yourself to be abetter person, to do better at work or tocreate a happier family life you need tounderstand the importance of taking controlof your self talk. Here are three tips you can use right away tomotivate yourself: 1. Talk to yourself the way you talk to someoneyou love Be honest! Is it true you sometimes insultyourself, curse yourself and say horrible thingsabout your abilities? If you spoke like this regularly to someone youcare about they would leave and never talk toyou again. There is no excuse for treatingyourself so badly. Talk to yourself the way you would talk tosomeone you deeply love. Be respectful,patient and understanding. Be slow to anger,quick to praise and grateful for theopportunity to listen. Be on your best behavior when you talk toyourself and you will find that you treat otherpeople better as well. This in turn will causepeople to respond more positively to whateveryou say. These very people will be moreinclined to help you get what you want. In an indirect way your communication withthe outside world will improve. 2. Pump up the volume Very often we go through our day with aninternal dialogue buzzing away in thebackground. We mutter to ourselves aboutwhat we need to do without feelingparticularly inspired to do anything other thanwhat we have to do. This is not an effective strategy for selfmotivation! What you need to do instead is to turn up thevolume, inject some passion into your wordsand talk to yourself with enthusiasm. Youwould not have much luck motivatingsomeone else to take action without puttingsome energy into your words. You need to dothe same to motivate yourself. The next time you want to motivate yourself todo something talk to yourself the same wayyou would if someone was standing beforeyou waiting to be inspired. Speak loudly with passion and excitementeither aloud or to yourself inside your head.The more energy you put into it the easier itwill be to light the fire inside you that sparksyou into action. 3. Know how to feel good when you arehaving a tough day No matter how focused, positive and hardworking you are there will still be days whennothing seems to go your way. It is on dayslike this that you must take charge of yourbrain and take control of your self talk. You need a back catalogue of memories youcan replay to make yourself feel good. Musicdoes it for me. I have so many songs I love tohear that I just pick one out and listen to it inmy mind. In a moment I can listen to sounds that makeme feel fantastic simply by choosing to. Forbest results imagine you have a volume controlwith bass and treble. Make the music soundrich, loud and resonant. A friend of mine has such a great memory thathe will listen to an entire CD in his mind. Howabout that for a quick and easy way to feelgood whenever you are having a tough day? One final way to use this tip. Replay happymemories of people telling you how much theyvalue and appreciate you. Hear them sayingwhat a difference you are making and soak upthose wonderful feelings of appreciation. It really is your choice as to how you run yourbrain. Choose to feel great and yourcommunication with yourself and the outsideworld will become remarkable.
Posted on: Mon, 09 Sep 2013 18:11:24 +0000
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