I am one to always want to speak an encouraging word to someone who is grieving. I want to be the voice of reason and I hope to impart some reasoning or wisdom to genuinely help a friend who is hurting. But I never knew how bad those encouraging words could anger, belittle, wound, and discourage someone who is grieving until I was the the person grieving. Instead of speaking what we may believe to be sympathetic words to someone experiencing immense grief, we all need to learn to think and speak empathetically; to truly put ourselves in the shoes of the one grieving. Furthermore, oftentimes words are not needed or wanted. Sometimes the grieving simply need to know you love them, will walk beside them through their difficult time, stand behind them when they need a push, and stand in front of them to fight for them when they cant fight for themselves. Many times the grieving need to verbalized their fears, anger and sadness and dont want any feedback; just ears to listen and a shoulder to cry on. Though the post below is written from the perspective of a woman who lost a child, much of it still applies to everyone who will ever try to console someone grieving. Worth the read.
Posted on: Fri, 31 Jan 2014 04:50:12 +0000
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