I thought i was an expert on Adeline Fraser. I thought I knew everything there was to know about this fascinating black woman. I was completely wrong. I knew she was strong...wed been through so much heartache in our lives already and she always was my rock and helped me through those times...but the level of strength I have witnessed in the past week has completely blown my mind... Everybody knows and sees the pain and the hurt we have experienced through this unthinkable tragedy of losing our son. Its a pain that I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy...but for Adeline, she has to deal with the same hurt and depression and pain and sorrow I have and on top of that she has to deal with the physical pain of a classic C section where her stomach was cut horizontally on the outside and vertically on the inside. She has to deal with the pain of her body making preparations to still nurse a child that has been taken from her and do things to try and convince her bodys natural function that her child is no longer here so it should stop producing food for him. She has been told by doctors and other experts that from now on she will have high risk pregnancies and will need constant supervision and she has had numerous medical personnel in her face only hours after her on childs passing offering psychiatric assistance and medicinal remedies for a depression she didnt even understand yet and through ALLLLL of that and more she has been encouraging me non stop and praying for others and making sure im ok and her family is ok. She is truly the strongest woman I ever met and thats not just an open statement im making because im trying to get on her good side lol...the power of God flows through my wife and the strenght He has given her through the entire pregnancy and birth and passing of our son cannot be expained by anything here on earth....Although she has had very low times and weve cried and screamed and questioned and we are still confused and feel like we just want to wake up from this nightmare, she has maintained her faith in God and her trust in his perfect will and even through this awful tragedy where she should be mad at the world and angry at everybody and everything she has been the exact opposite and has been a GREAT encouragement to me and manyyy other people. Even the doctors and nurses were astonished with how she took each bad report we were given...and how she reacted when they told us it was nothing else they could do. She was in excruciating pain physically and more pain mentally than people who have committed suicide but she got up out of her hospital bed, dragged herself to the bathroom and did her hair, put on earrings and took off her hospital gown and put on her clothes then refused a wheelchair and walked to the NICU to our son and held him and spoke to him like the comforting mother she was created to be. She wanted her son to see mommy and not a hospital patient suffering and in pain.....it was amazing to be a 1st hand witness to her strenght and it gave me soooooo much strenght and I stopped complaining. Even the nurses and doctors who deal with these situations regularly were in tears and astonished at the strenght she showed and as she said it was all because of Jesus... When our son was declared deceased tuesday morning we walked back to room 1632 in labor and delivery (just like our home address lol) and when we got back in the bed and started crying and holding each other and trying to hold the screams in she looked at me and started rubbing my forehead like she rubbed our sons and said to me I cant wait to be a mommy again...were going to be such great parents..... After all that turmoil...the toughest operation she had to endure by far in her life, the rough high risk pregnancy including a mandatory bed rest and multiple hospital visits and bad reports from ultrasounds and obgyn doctors nurses techs etc on top of the pain of an unexpected C section that will affect her body the rest of her life and then losing our child 2 days later SHE WANTED TO GO THROUGH IT ALL AGAIN!!...And had the faith in God to believe that he will allow the next child to be a healthy baby that we will raise loving God and making a positive impact on society. ...there are no words in the dictionary that come close to describing the level of strenght she has and the level of love and admiration I have for this amazing woman but I am just soooooooooo thankful to God for giving me the great privilege and honor of being Asfraser Fraser husband.
Posted on: Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:39:14 +0000
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