It’s not that praise is bad. It’s just that generic praise (Good job) or character based praise (You’re so smart) in response to a job well done are not helpful. The current research indicates that these kinds of statements first, don’t give the child any specific informational feedback about what was effective or why they deserve praise, second, they give them the idea that things are out of their control and third, that they are only “good” if they perform a certain way. The research suggests that instead of using these kinds of praise that our praise be specific and effort based (“Wow, you really worked hard on that.”). One article from Psychology today stated, “If you’re going to be lazy with your praise, at least say, “Good effort!” (Jim Taylor, PhD). This kind of praise encourages continued effort and helps the child to foster and fortify their own internal motivation and confidence to learn and grow truparenting.net/two-words-replace-good-job/
Posted on: Sun, 24 Nov 2013 03:01:00 +0000
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