Loss: My 6 yr old, mostly nonverbal, ASD daughter was very close with my dad, her Grandpa (she called him Buddy). He passed away a few weeks ago to cancer. Ive tried explaining to her how Buddy is up in Heaven watching over her, but Im not sure how much she is retaining from that. I know she notices he is gone - my mom will be around, and not Buddy, and when we went to their house (they live in FLA, were in NJ), she kept going to the front door, or sitting in his chair and flipping out if anyone else sat in his chair (or went to crawl up there with them). And, of course, this all coincided with the joys of the first days of school, with a new class, new teachers, new aftercare, so my poor girl is just unraveling with all these changes. School is working on the schedule and getting used to the classroom, but Im not sure if there is anything else I can do to explain to her about my dad and his passing (not to mention, *I* am still reeling from it, even though it was expected). On a sidenote, yet also related, in a might be mumbojumbo kind of way, she woke up in the middle of the night crying, the night he passed, at the exact time he was saying goodbye to my mom, and kissing my daughters picture, and then she stayed awake for 2 hours, while he fell into a finally relaxed sleep, babbling nonsense words....and then she fell asleep about 10mins before he passed. Maybe I am deluding myself, but I feel like this is some deep connection she has with him, more than a coincidence, that she was talking with her Buddy. So, maybe she is more balanced with this death than all of us typicals? I dont know, I just want to make sure I am doing the best for my girl.
Posted on: Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:38:50 +0000
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