Love and Differences After graduating from UST, I had the opportunity to work overseas. May boyfriend ako that time pero it didnt work out until the first quarter of my working overseas. I dated few guys. Kain and text lang pero ilan yung na-date ko pero wala talaga eh. Wala yung sparks maybe because di pa ko ready for a new relationship or di pa fully recovered yung puso ko. No matter how much you want to heal your hearts pain, trying hard to love someone else is not the solution. I just believed that the right one will come on the right time. Few months later, I met this guy sa workplace ko. It started as tukso lang ng colleagues namin, hes not really my type kasi hes not Filipino plus hindi siya Catholic, Muslim siya. So para sakin, its a big no no. Tinanong ako ng colleague ko kung bakit ayaw ko daw. Sabi ko, Ayoko talaga. Hinding hindi ako makikipag date sa ibang nationality plus hindi ko sya kilala and hes not my type! (Haha. Kapal eh no? Kala mo kagandahan.) Pero kinain ko lahat ng sinabi ko. How? He made effort para makuha number ko. Asked me to go out. I dont know, I saw sincerity in his eyes, from there, I didnt know, I started falling for him na pero may times na I still cry about my ex and you know whats worst? Sa kanya pa ko umiiyak. Pero he never left my side, he endured the pain of being my comforter while I was struggling to forget my past. Until I finally get better. Ewan ko ba, slowly nag fade yung pain. All the hatred turned into love. And he was the one that I chose to love. Completely and unconditionally. He became my happiness, my motivator and my inspiration in each day. Although we are very different from belief to race to nationality to culture, such things did not stop us from being a good couple. We both like adventures and traveling. We always travel and do camping. Stay late night somewhere and go home early just enjoying the presence of each other. Siguro ganun talaga yung love na kahit wala kayong ginagawa, feeling mo its still a well spent time. He explained to me the real meaning of Islam, I understand his belief and he did too for my side. Pero what surprises me is hindi nya ko pinilit or even once sinabihan na magpa-covert to Islam and you know whats the best part? mas naging close pa ko kay God which before parang ako, Basta Catholic na ko, okay na yun. Difference in culture isnt hard at all kasi hes not that traditional plus, what matters most is he is simply treating me so right. He brought out the best in me and now I believe that love will not destroy you but it will make you a better person. From playboy sa ex nya ngayon he dont do it anymore cos he said, When you truly love a person, you know her worth and you will not cheat just because you are afraid of her but because you simply love her. And I know it is true kasi I feel so secure with his love, mararamdaman mo naman kung hes cheating or not, di ba? So what does my parents says about this relationship, of course ayaw nila. Mahirap kasi hindi naman sila yung makikipag relasyon sa boyfriend ko eh but I do see their point kasi nga like me nung una, I dont understand things. Like sa difference, race, culture and of course religion. Pero me and my boyfriend are finding way to make them understand and show them that he is really sincere sakin. Ang matatanda kasi takot sa changes, kasi hindi nila ito naiintindihan thats why we slowly inform them about things and from there they will know na good person so boyfriend. Hanggang ngayon were still together standing strong kahit LDR na kami for a year. Madaming arguments at di pagkakaintindihan pero we try to work it out. Tiwala lang sa isat isa. Communication. Everytime we talk of FaceTime it always feels like were sitting side by side and talking about random stuff, we watch movie at the same time. Cos we cant do anything to be together physically, but you can always make way to make each other feel your presence. LDR is never easy, couples are always struggling to be together. Everyday, were just thankful that the day had ended cos we know the days are going near til the day that we are going to be in each others arms again. And no, I will not say na sana kami na talaga thus Ill say, we are doing everything para maging kami talaga in the end. So to everyone na kaparehas sa situation ko, LDR? stay strong. Pray to God for his guidance. Spend time together at least once in a while. Example, FaceTime or Skyping or playing games na pwedeng versus kayo. Difference in culture? Mahirap sabi nila pero in the end does your man/girl treats you well? Then dont think about culture. Kasi nainvent lang naman ang salita na culture para ma-divide ang mga tao. After all, at the end of the day, tao tayong lahat, you both love each other. That matters the most. Difference in religion? My advice is know the religion of each other. Try to learn. Wag ka lang magpadala sa feeling mo dahil mahal mo sya is mag papaconvert ka na agad. It doesnt work like that. I-feel mo kung tama ba yung teachings ng religion nya and kung mas lalo mong na feel si God. And always remember.. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. - 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 PositiveGirl Quadri Batch College of Tourism and Hospitality Management
Posted on: Thu, 18 Sep 2014 11:51:53 +0000
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