Man-Projects.. Some of us love a Project. And by Project I mean a man that we can modify to meet our specifications. Examples: You pick out his clothes..tell him how to dress (or buy his wardrobe) You instruct him on what he needs to do physically (get rid of that beard, wear X cologne, remove applicable taco meat) You go line by line and fix his credit You take over managing his money You do his resume and/or coach him on how to interview You move him out of mamas house and into yours or his own (YOU complete the application process, gather his docs, talk to the staff, etc.) You decorate his new home (assuming its not yours) You expose him to all the social activities you enjoy and either he hates / has no interest in / has never tried You coach him on how to behave in front of your family / friends You feel like you cant introduce him to said fam / friends until youre almost done with the construction process (and youre sure he wont embarrass you) You teach him how to navigate certain situations (that wine glass is for Red versus White) You control the bedroom activities..and like a patient teacher instruct him on the dos /donts of pleasing you When you do introduce - you keep an eagle-eye on him - monitoring his behavior and things he says I could go on and on. Years ago, I dated a Man-Project and after construction - I was bored to tears and no longer wanted him. And the fact that he allowed me to manage him really lessened my attraction to him. Details about my Project: He lived with mama She fixed him plates of food and put his name on the foil (so her husband and other kids wouldnt eat) She washed and folded his clothes and placed them on his bed Mama called him all the time He was a terrible dresser Was significantly overweight (by about 100lbs) He had hygiene & bedroom issues due to the weight He had an extremely low-paying job By the time I was done with him - he was in a much better place (in all categories) for someone else. I tried to convince myself that it was going somewhere even though I knew it was not. Sigh.. wasted a lot of time / energy on that but I was much younger so I felt bad for about 2 seconds and quickly moved on to my new man. Now being older and wiser - I would advise all of you to NOT invest in a Project. You will waste precious time creating a man for someone else (and he may resent/lash out at you for all of your efforts because you’ve taken over/created his identity) or you lose interest. Or both. Question to ask yourself: Is he a Man or a Project? Why have you taken on the Construction Manager role? What does this say about him that hes allowed you to take (him) over? Once youre done - then what happens?
Posted on: Mon, 15 Dec 2014 14:08:01 +0000