My husband wrote this and I thought it was beautiful, true and well stated so I thought I would share it. By Moriba Kemessia Jah Trauma and the aftermath: When we go through times of extreme pain, suffering...when you have experienced absolute loneliness in this suffering and even considered taking your own life, it changes your humanity. As a survivor, you can choose to perpetuate violence, not necessarily by participating in it, but by doing or saying nothing about it and becoming desensitized to it (this is a defense mechanism). Alternatively one can do something much harder which is rise above it entirely, becoming a vehicle of love and compassion, but in doing so, truly feeling all there is to feel. There is no other way... Few people choose the latter because healing means going through and releasing pain which in and of itself can hurt a lot. But the difference is that the person doing this in the end is much much stronger, truly, and is a source of healing to others in this world that so desperately need it. Another benefit is that this type of a person, because of this, tends to have a much fuller and happier life for themselves and to share with others. Going through traumatic experiences is like being in a bad car accident, mangled in wreckage. You can live through it and even learn to live in the wreckage itself, and convince yourself that this is ok, normal, or meant to be as it is. In fact, most people do this without even realizing it and call themselves survivors. What is much harder is getting out of the wreckage and healing. It means being vulnerable and accepting help from others to do so. It means feeling pain to do so. It means accepting that being in the wreckage is not normal or good enough...it takes a great deal of strength and courage, and when you are out, you are broken and in need of triage and mending for some time. Some people get out and think it is over, but in fact, the road has just begun...one that is still long and arduous but worth it! Those who feel it done, and do no more, can easily end up in the wreckage again. It is not easy to open ones heart and soul to other people again...but it is worth it. I know. You are more than and not defined by your experiences, although these do shape your soul based upon what you felt and how you dealt with them. In order to heal, one must deal with the source of trauma, be open, be vulnerable, and feel. One must fully descend in order to ascend. There is great reward for one who would so courageously take this path...and the world as a whole, benefits from this service to self! This Earth is scattered with broken people who dont even know it...dont be a survivor, be healed instead and whatever pain this requires, is worth it. But tread lightly as you do, and be kind and loving to yourself as you do...no rush, but firm steps that always move forward, are needed.
Posted on: Wed, 14 May 2014 14:13:25 +0000
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