NO CONTACT Support. What is it and why do we subscribe to the No Contact policy? No Contact is a decision by a person who was abused by a narcissist to CEASE ALL FORMS OF COMMUNICATION. We live by the rules of No Contact in order to regain our clarity. We cant effectively improve our mental and emotional health while still in the presence of an abusive person. No Contact = No further manipulation. Ask any former target who successfully went No Contact with a narcissist and theyll tell you, that the first 90 days, while intensely difficult and comparable to breaking an addiction, reveals evidence of the level of brainwashing done by the narcissist and how clear that behavior becomes when the presence of the toxic abuse is removed (the narcissist). With distance and removal of the brainwashing source, the excavation and removal of toxicity begins. We regain our clarity and ability to see how our rights are obliterated and violated by narcissistic abusers. We begin to see the cycle of abuse for what it is. No Contact isnt a game, a punishment or an opportunity to show the narcissist how much theyll miss us (they wont), it is our last chance to save our sanity before we slip into the abyss of being forever lost to our soul snatcher. Modifications: 1. Non marital romantic relationship w/ no children: FULL NO CONTACT - cease all communication immediately and permanently. 2. Marital relationship w/ no children: Modified Low Contact - where all emotional exchanges and attempts to problem solve the relationship is ceased immediately. The only topics of conversation pertain to the dissolution or divorce of the marriage. 3. Marital & non marital relationship WITH children: Modified Low Contact - where all emotional exchanges, individual needs and feelings are ceased immediately, and all communication going forward involves THE CHILDREN ONLY. 4. Familial relationships: Either Full NO Contact (best for the target for a period of time) or Modified Low Contact where the familial relationship (blood relationship) is severed for a moment in time, but once the target has become stronger, clearer and educated about the abuse, is able to interface with the family member in a very limited way - not having expectation that the narcissistic family member will ever operate with a normal schema. (out of obligation, duty, or personal reasons to the target) 5. Friendships: Full No Contact. Narcissists arent friends. 6. Work Relationships - Modified Low Contact. (No contact where possible) if it is required to interface with the person in a work environment, strong boundaries and refusal to internalize or personalize the narcissists toxic behavior. 7. General Public: Full No Contact, there is no benefit to the target to engage a narcissist in the general population. No communication, no teaching them a lesson no sharing your feelings of disgust or disdain. Walk away.
Posted on: Thu, 18 Dec 2014 18:12:04 +0000
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