One of the great challenges for those who have survived abusive or neglectful parents is that there is often a part of us that is still waiting for them to love us, even if there is very little chance of that happening. Locked in an archaic mindset, we continue to go back for more, looking for love in all the wrong places, still elevating them on a primal pedestal that does not even begin to reflect their human limitations and failings. Somehow we imagine that they will come around one day, realize their mistakes, see our worth, soften those armored edges. And some do, often when they are very old, made vulnerable by sickness and time. But many dont, and we need to stop putting our emotional lives on hold waiting for something that may never happen. The bridge from stagnation to empowerment lies in our willingness to see them for who they really are, to take them off their primal pedestal and recognize their human limitations. This is not easy- the hungry child-self clings to illusions- but it is oh so necessary. Until we accept the limitations of those who cannot love us, we cannot embrace the willingness of those who can.
Posted on: Sun, 07 Dec 2014 02:53:00 +0000
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