Over-Thinking or Over-Analyzing Things? So, your Dominant has not called, text, or responded to you quick enough. What goes on in that beautiful head of yours? Is he or she busy talking to someone else? He or she has not liked my post or responded to my comments. What does that mean? Is he or she not doing it because they want someone else and does not that person to see him or her showing emotions for the one they are with at present.? Yes, we all think somewhere along these lines. Yes, reading between the lines and analyzing information we receive is an intrinsic part of who we are as human beings. Sometimes, some people take it to far, some to an insane and ultimately unhealthy degree. We obsessively go over and over every word in our conversation, why did he or she say or do that, what did he or she really mean when they said or did this. We drive ourselves crazy worrying and stressing over little things and waste so much time over (in most cases) nothing. Something that is so simple and straight forward becomes so very ridiculously complicated. We so over think and over analyze that when we eventually decide to act upon what we think the other person said or meant everything goes wrong, because what we are reacting on is a reality we made up all on our own. Somewhere in our over thinking and over analyzing we completely lose touch with what really was said or what really did happen. Reading too much and too far into every single little thing can end up costing you your relationship. If you are one of those people that tend to over think your relationship, one of the things you can do is seek professional help to try to help you stop the behavior. The other thing (which I suggest) is instead of trying to stop it, train yourself to direct it into a creative outlet. My outlet of course writing. 1. Stop looking for hidden meanings and messages that are not really there. Not everything someone says or does has hidden meaning or messages. Learn to take peoples words and actions at face value. You dont have to stick your head in the dirt, just stop trying to read more into everything. If someone says they will call, over analyzing what that really means will not make a difference, as to whether or not they actually do call. 2. Slow down and take things one day at a time People who over analyze, over thinkers, engage in mind reading, second guess, reality altering are often to focused in the past or for some too far into the future that I sometimes forget about the present. The mind is sometimes days/weeks/months ahead of the present reality. If you are like me, we need to learn to take one moment at a time, one day at a time. Why you ask. Because no one can predict with 100% accuracy what will or will not happen. There can and there will always be another perspective, another reason, another explanation, another interpretation or something that will happen that you may not even thought of. When the future you dreaded so much finally comes, you may find that its not as bad as you had imagined in your head. This meaning Yes, you read into the situation something that was not there. 3. Step back and away from your situation and focus on someone or something else other than you If you find yourself so wrapped up in a clutter of thoughts, it is most likely because you have gone way to far and way to deep in over-thinking and over analyzing which is very unhealthy for you, for your mental health. Try as much as possible to get out of your head and get into your life. Spend more time with family and friends, help someone else, join a cause that stands for something you are truly passionate about. The more of yourself you share with others, the less time you have to turn in circles in that beautiful head of yours.
Posted on: Sun, 20 Apr 2014 14:36:51 +0000
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