** POSSESSIVENESS : A Love disease ** When we love someone truly,madly, we are ought them. Its a human trait which we have inherited. And mind you, its not a crime nor is it something to be ashamed of, if you are possessive for your partners. In fact, a relationship cease to exist when you lose your possessiveness for someone you love but just like every other thing in this world, excess of anything is bad. Possessiveness is not a bad attribute, but there is fine line between what is good and what is bad. The fine line basically depend on nature of both the partners. Some partners feel that its a proof of the love and care,while on other side, there are people who complain of suffocation and lack of freedom. I bet that every person attains a possessive nature, and if he say no to this fact then for sure that person is lying to you. Its just a matter of fact that *HOW MUCH* and *HOW THEY REACT* . We find that usually couples fight over *BEING POSSESSIVE TOPIC* we think of arguments such as.. *you dont let me hangout with my guy friends* *You stalk over chats I had with my girl-Friends* *why cant I wear which I feel comfortable in* But let me take you to the other side of such fights and arguments. These above topic are really not the basic reason, nah!! Ask to yourself.. Is it? NO a big NO, the real fact is that we cannot handle our failure, the equality of care and possessive nature lacks. And the arguments really comes out with * Jab mai aise behave karti hu tab to u feel so bad* * Mai larka hun, but you dont need to act the same* *If you can do that why not me* * if you cant face the questions over being possessive ,then dont shoot such questions on my case* Yes you got it right. The topic shifts from *INSECURITY* to *COMPARISON* and you wont even notice that. And ask me, thats the basic and obvious reasons of such fights between couples. But this is wrong, according to me if you feel the right to ask such questions then if when it comes to your turn then you should have guts to face it and accept it. Its not a matter of a *BOY* or a *GIRL*but its a matter of a *LOVE* and love between partners should be equal and they should treat each other equal. Relationships are built on trust-and a degree of freedom, and space is expected by both the partners, and if this trust and freedom is threatened relationship starts going down the drain. Your erratic nature can really make your partner feel “cased” . And the myth like if a boy is over possessive that means he loves and care for her so much and if a girl do the same its insecurity are hell. There is no such facts. Share a healthy relationship. Trust your partner and give them their own space and on other hand the partner should respect the freedom given. And a couple should rethink on facts that: *WEAK people take REVENGE *STRONG people FORGIVE *INTELLIGENT people AVOID *And people in LOVE spread PEACE Signing off, Diya
Posted on: Fri, 29 Nov 2013 16:30:01 +0000
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