People are lonely. Girls usually state that the guys are too passive, while guys claim that the girls are standoffish and unapproachable. Pool of new acquaintances is too hard to expand. People choose their partners through beaten tracks, cutting corners, with the least possible amount of uncertainty, within restricted college communities, best friend’s recommendations, in one word, in a way they consider “safe”. Why would a friend’s recommendation or matchmaking or a college buddy necessarily be a better choice for you than a total stranger? People often have a few persons (alternatives) in their surroundings, who they dissect in their minds until they make, almost forcefully, the least inferior choice. Those more idealistic and uncompromising are still lonesomely waiting for something to happen, while in their minds creating their own replicas of romantic movie scenes from parks, trains and other fortunate coincidences. I am convinced that those circumstances have to be earned. To begin with, by lowering the walls, smiling, quit generalizing and freeing of stereotypes. How many times do you turn your head to look at someone on the street, catch someone’s smile or a gesture that captives you in a jiffy? Become fascinated by someone’s scent, their fashion statement. Men are inhibited by the very thing that should be said, the awkwardness of the approach itself, and the gazillion of other equally auto destructive interpretations. Girls’ dilemmas are of different nature, one of many relating to an idea of being misunderstood unless standoffish and unapproachable. In the sea of “don’t”, you give up easily; regret for some time, than, at the end, convince yourself that it’s not that realistic anyways, that it would end infamously. Why would we necessarily need to have a reason or an alibi, isn’t it sometimes enough just to have the desire or the intuition, even if it’s wrong? By giving others a chance, you are giving yourselves an opportunity to find what you’re looking for, no necessarily your future partner, perhaps a friend, someone through whom you you’ll meet other people, someone you’ll go to a concert with. If you’re choosing between 100 people your chances of finding what you’re looking for are far better than if you’re choosing between 10 of them. Five or ten minutes of a conversation can tell you a lot about a person, taking you’re asking the right questions. In the worst case scenario you’ll lose those ten minutes, but on the other hand you can find someone who could make you happy. You’ll be embarrassed, so what!? The most awkward moment is the one where in midst of an unpleasant situation you behave like it’s not unpleasant at all, but then you get over it and move on. The goal of this documentary is to deal with stereotypes on meeting new people; it might confirm them, might refute them, motivate us and break the myth or further convince those who gave up that they made a right decision. Personally, I would like it to bring people together, those who are willing to give others a chance and to contribute to acquainting others, perhaps motivate a girl to start a “Meet the Guy” project, at least get them to think about this topic. Let it be a place where interests and opinions can be shared, movies and songs recommended, flirts exchanged, and most important of all a please where no one will ashamed about it. Facing our problems is partially a solution of our problems. Until the end of this project, and of course, beyond that, be the person you would like to meet. Pavle Jakšić, Author
Posted on: Mon, 01 Jul 2013 13:29:15 +0000
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