Probably the most powerful among De Mellos speeches. OBSTACLES TO HAPPINESS What Im about to say will sound a bit pompous, but its true. What is coming could be the most important minutes in your lives. If you could grasp this, youd hit upon the secret of awakening. You would be happy forever. You would never be unhappy again. Nothing would have the power to hurt you again. I mean that, nothing. Its like when you throw black paint in the air, the air remains uncontaminated. You never color the air black. No matter what happens to you, you remain uncontaminated. You remain at peace. There are human beings who have attained this, what I call being human. Not this nonsense of being a puppet, jerked about this way and that way, letting events or other people tell you how to feel. So you proceed to feel it and you call it being vulnerable. Ha! I call it being a puppet. So you want to be a puppet? Press a button and youre down; do you like that? But if you refuse to identify with any of those labels, most of your worries cease. Later well talk about fear of disease and death, but ordinarily youre worried about whats going to happen to your career. A small-time businessman, fifty-five years old, is sipping beer at a bar somewhere and hes saying, Well, look at my classmates, theyve really made it. The idiot! What does he mean, They made it? Theyve got their names in the newspaper. Do you call that making it? One is president of the corporation; the other has become the Chief Justice; somebody else has become this or that. Monkeys, all of them. Who determines what it means to be a success? This stupid society! The main preoccupation of society is to keep society sick! And the sooner you realize that, the better. Sick, every one of them. They are loony, theyre crazy. You became president of the lunatic asylum and youre proud of it even though it means nothing. Being president of a corporation has nothing to do with being a success in life. Having a lot of money has nothing to do with being a success in life. Youre a success in life when you wake up! Then you dont have to apologize to anyone, you dont have to explain anything to anyone, you dont give a damn what anybody thinks about you or what anybody says about you. You have no worries; youre happy. Thats what I call being a success. Having a good job or being famous or having a great reputation has absolutely nothing to do with happiness or success. Nothing! It is totally irrelevant. All hes really worried about is what his children will think about him, what the neighbors will think about him, what his wife will think about him. He should have become famous. Our society and culture drill that into our heads day and night. People who made it! Made what?! Made asses of themselves. Because they drained all their energy getting something that was worthless. Theyre frightened and confused, they are puppets like the rest. Look at them strutting across the stage. Look how upset they get if they have a stain on their shirt. Do you call that a success? Look at how frightened they are at the prospect they might not be reelected. Do you call that a success? They are controlled, so manipulated. They are unhappy people, they are miserable people. They dont enjoy life. They are constantly tense and anxious. Do you call that human? And do you know why that happens? Only one reason: They identified with some label. They identified the I with their money or their job or their profession. That was their error. Did you hear about the lawyer who was presented with a plumbers bill? He said to the plumber, Hey, youre charging me two hundred dollars an hour. I dont make that kind of money as a lawyer. The plumber said, I didnt make that kind of money when I was a lawyer either! You could be a plumber or a lawyer or a business man or a priest, but that does not affect the essential I . It doesnt affect you. If I change my profession tomorrow, its just like changing my clothes. I am untouched. Are you your clothes? Are you your name? Are you your profession? Stop identifying with them. They come and go. When you really understand this, no criticism can affect you. No flattery or praise can affect you either. When someone says, Youre a great guy, what is he talking about? Hes talking about me, hes not talking about I . I is neither great nor small. I is neither successful nor a failure. It is none of these labels. These things come and go. These things depend on the criteria society establishes. These things depend on your conditioning. These things depend on the mood of the person who happens to be talking to you right now. It has nothing to do with I. I is none of these labels. Me is generally selfish, foolish, childish - a great big ass. So when you say, Youre an ass, Ive known it for years! The conditioned self - what did you expect? Ive known it for years. Why do you identify with him? Silly! That isnt I, thats me. Do you want to be happy? Uninterrupted happiness is uncaused. True happiness is uncaused. You cannot make me happy. You are not my happiness. You say to the awakened person, Why are you happy? and the awakened person replies, Why not? Happiness is our natural state. Happiness is the natural state of little children, to whom the kingdom belongs until they have been polluted and contaminated by the stupidity of society and culture. To acquire happiness you dont have to do anything, because happiness cannot be acquired. Does anybody know why? Because we have it already. How can you acquire what you already have? Then why dont you experience it? Because youve got to drop something. Youve got to drop illusions. You dont have to add anything in order to be happy; youve got to drop something. Life is easy, life is delightful. Its only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings. Do you know where these things come from? From having identified with all kinds of labels! Antony De Mello
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