Self Esteem Introduction. A young executive with poor self esteem was promoted but he could not reconcile himself to his new office and position. There was a knock at at his door.To show how important and busy he was, he picked up the phone and then asked the visitor to come in. As the man waited for the executive, the exxecutive kept on talking on the phone nodding and saying, No problem, I can handle that.After a few minutes he hung up and asked the visitor what he could do for him. The man replied, Sir, I am the company technician and I am here to connect your phone. The executive was totally embarassed. What is Self Esteem? Self esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. When we feel good, the world looks nice, productivity goes up and relationships are a lot better. Benefits of High Self Esteem. 1. It builds a strong conviction. 2. It creates willingness toaccept responsibility 3. It builds optimistic attitudes 4. It leads to better relationships and fulfilling lives 5. It develops a caring attitudeand makes a person more sensitive to others needs 6. It makes a person open to new opportunities and challenges 7. It improves performance and increases risk taking ability 8. It helps a person give and receive both criticism and comiments tactfully and easily How do you recognize people who havelow self esteem? 1. They are generally rumour mongers 2. They criticise almost everything as if there was a contest going on to see who can criticize the most 3. They are concerned about egos - they are arrogant and pretend they know it all. They tear down others to get a feeling of superiority 4. Tbey are close minded and self centred 5. They never accept responsibility always blaming others 6. They are jealous in nature 7. The are bored and uncomfortable when alone 8. They are unwilling to take positive criticism. They become very defensive 9. They dont have genuine friends because they are not genuine themselves 10. They make promises they cannot keep. Promises not kept lead to loss of credibility 11. They have a fragil ego- every time something is said, they take is personally and gets hurt. 12. They constantly seek approval and validation from others 13. They bragabout thenmselves because they lack confidence 14. They have negative expectations of themselves and others and are seldom disappointed in those expectations. Causes of Low Self Esteem. 1. Negative self talk. Always seeing the glass half empty and not half full. Your tongue has the power of life and death. What confessions do make of your life. 2. Environment - that is why it is good to be exposed and travel widely. A disease that is incurable is what I term as villagitis. 3. Upbringing especially home upbringing. It is a great heritage to have honest parents. Parents who participate in crooked business deals unfortunately set bad examples for their future generations. How Do You Build Self Esteem? 1. Turn your scars into stars 2. Do something for others who cannot repay you in cash or kind 3. Learn to give and receive compliments 4. Accept responsibility 5. Practice discipline 6. Set goals 7. Associate with people of high moral character - it is better to be alone than to be in bad company 8. Bcome internally driven, not externally driven. 9. Develop a mindset that brings happiness. Conclusion There is a story about a farmer who planted pumpkins on his land. For no reason, he put a small pumpkin hanging by the vine into a glass jar. At harvest time, he saw that the pumpkin had grown, equivalent only to the shape and size of the glass jar. Just as the pumpkin could not grow beyond the boundaries restricting it, you cannot perform beyond the boundariesof your self concept, whatever those boundaries are. The world will not care how much you know until they know how much you care. Our greatest weakness can become our greatest strength but our greatest strength can also become our greatest weakness or undoing. It can be done, it must be done, for if it is not done then we are done.
Posted on: Sun, 16 Nov 2014 07:43:50 +0000
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